Many people claim college is where you’ll meet your future spouse because dating in high school is nonsense. It’s not surprising when you see a young couple break up because the guy/girl claims, “It’s not you it’s me”. The relationship rules theory believes friendship (primarily love) is held together by adherence to certain rules. When those rules are broken, relationships have a possibility of ending (DeVito 2015). There are many different types of relationships but my primary focus is on the romantic ones. I am a HDFS (Human Development and Family Science) major with a specialty in Marriage and Family Therapy. I enjoy evaluating the dynamic of relationships, which is why I chose to analyze one that I’m in currently. Romantic relations can …show more content…
We attend different colleges, I chose OSU and he chose KU; it is obvious that we aren’t going to be around each other. Being apart causes you to have to be more honest. For example, one day I took a Biology test on which I felt I did terribly. That night when we facetimed I was upset and not in the mood to talk. I had to explain to him, “I’m not in a good mood; I’m upset about my grade and I can’t focus on our conversation.” That is a small example of how important it is to be honest, because if I hadn’t spoken up he would’ve assumed I was upset with …show more content…
We have the same religious beliefs and that has influenced how we treat each other, our relationship, ourselves, and other people. We carry ourselves the same way because our core values are the same. Being apart and only getting to see each other every couple weeks has caused us to rely and focus on whom the person is and not just what they can do for the other. The distance has caused us to appreciate the personal similarities in attitudes, beliefs, values, and interests because it’s something rare to find.
The main idea of the relationship theory is to help a person to identify a healthy versus unhealthy relationship. Rules often provide structure, which also holds the two accountable to each other. For example, if two people break up they could reflect on where they went wrong. They could also see if certain rules they placed on their relationship were broken. If there are rules, there is a better understanding between people whether it is a relationship or friendship. When there is a clear understanding, there is a stronger growth in relationship
Once they can objectively see the pattern and how it repeats itself over time, they are in a position to see their own contribution to it” (pg. 36). An individual can only change their own relationship pattern. If one individual in the relationship tries to make a positive change to their relationship pattern it is more than likely that the other partner will follow in their footsteps (Gilbert, 1992). While reading this chapter on relationship patterns I began to notice similarities with some of my own relationships. It was awesome to see how these patterns come about and how to improve them. One of the second concepts discussed in the chapters was the emotions in relationships. One factor that stood out to me was how vital and crucial emotions are to human life. Gilbert (1992) believes that “Emotions are important to all life, firing the strong, quick reactions necessary to survive the dangers of existence” (pg. 38). Emotions can also be described as patterns that are created early on. In relationships emotions are one of the crucial parts of a relationship, but they can also lead to be part of the most difficult parts of a relationship. Gilbert (1992) states “While they are necessary, desirable, and pleasurable, feelings and emotions also lead to most of the
Understanding the different relationship theories along with the six stage model of relationships, we learn the concept of how to communicate in relationships. When and why we go through relationship stages we learn how to deal with the relationships more effectively and understand ourselves and our attitudes toward
Fairy tales tell us that once upon a time a girl met a boy; they fell in love, and lived happily ever after. Reality is not that simple. Long-term relationships force couples to get to know each other, involve themselves in each others’ worlds, fight through the hard times, and eventually develop deeper connections as noted through distinctive stages of Knapp’s relationship model. Although I have dated the same person for over two years, our communication through relationship stages makes it seem as though I am now dating a different person than the one I met years ago. Following dissolution and subsequent repair, I realize the most exhilarating of roller coaster rides develop through sets of ups and downs, much like the stages on how our relationship is built.
The first major topic the text brings forward in chapter 6 is the concept of relationship roadblocks. As the name implies these seven categories act as the downfalls to relationships. The concepts cover a wide range of types of problems from being tongue tied to giving up too much of your self to have a relationship. These concepts also happen at many different stages in relationship development however they primarily occur during the beginning or pre-relationship period.
These relationships help manage our emotions through constant interaction and provides an open line of communication whenever or wherever it may be needed. However, this poses a question; can humans survive without interpersonal relationships? According to the online scholarly article titled: “Interpersonal Relationships, Motivation, Engagement, and Achievement: Yields for Theory, Current Issues, and Educational Practice” we emphasize just how critical and essential the perks obtained through these relationships are. Through these relationships we “theorize the concepts of academic morality on the strong and healthy relationships students establish” (Martin, 2009). Through interactions and through the successful and unsuccessful relationships we develop throughout our lifetime, we accumulate
When I was younger my parents would read me fairy tales about the Disney princesses and how the man would rescue the woman, they would fall in love and live happily ever after. Obviously as I child I would think of love that way. I though you would meet a strong handsome man he would save you whenever you were in trouble, you fall in love marry, and live happily ever after. When I was in second and third grade the Cheetah girls movie came out and they were very popular. They had this song called Cinderella and the lyrics said “that fairy tale life wasn’t for me…I don’t want to be like Cinderella waiting for a guy to rescue me I rather rescue myself.” I remember singing that song when I was eight and nine and as I grew older I started to see
Relationships is one of those words that people use all the time but have troubling defining. There are many ways how we for relationships such as appearance, similarity, complementarily, and proximity with these formation it does help a relationship grow while it is a lesson to learn or not. In this paper, I will be talking about three people that I have a relationship with and a theory to combine it with. The first person will be my mother Grace Pagan and with her I will be talking about my Johari Window paper and the social exchange theory. The second person will be my ex fiancé Tony and with him I will be talking about my conflict paper and the Knapp theory. The last person will be my father Tito Pagan and with him I will be talking about
Every person throughout their lifetimes has wanted to go back and change the outcome of the past. People have had deaths of loved ones, tragic events, or made the wrong choice in a relationship that was a big mistake. But the idea of the changing your timeline would be considered the “Butterfly Effect”. Scientifically it would be explained by changing the past that can alter the present. The worst thing to happen to any child is a parent’s decline to alcoholism.
One of the best offerings of social exchange theory is the thought that satisfaction is but one criterion that we apply to regulate relationship durability. Despite this support, social exchange theory does not suggest how of many relationship behaviors and outcomes. So, social learning theory is most useful for explaining how decisions about relationships are made. After analyzing the breakup reasons of the three couples of the show “How I Met Your Mother,” I found similarity in some reason and these reasons were common among three of them. The most common reason came from the observation was difference of opinions in couples. The other common reason were ambition or career issues, which is very common nowadays. Looking at the show and the intimate relationship between the couples in the show it’s very clear that couples are now more open and frank. No matter what are the reasons behind taking up a relationship for couples, but couples do measure the outcomes from an intimate relationship. They are not ready to compromise their own life for a relationship anymore. Where Ted and Robin broke up because of difference of opinion between them, there Lilly and Marshal had a break up because Lilly had argument about Lily’s desire to go San Francisco for art training. Barney and Robin on the other hand, are too much similar to each other, which creates difference of opinion between them. Robin had hard time trusting Barney, when Barney was actually trying to be faithful to Robin. Barney tried to become something, which he wasn’t at all, and this was making him miserable. So they had to finally decide to part ways. From this case study, I learnt no matter how much love or passion may be present between
Human beings as social animals thrive and prosper on social interactions with fellow beings. Growth and development of an individual’s personality depends largely on his/her relationships with significant others. Human relationships are indeed known for their warmth, comfort, security, nurture and emotions. Relationship has many dimensions and facets and it keeps on changing with the pace of ongoing evolution of human society. Certainly, it is relationship which fabricates society on this earth and it has been shifting from most common to complex since the immemorial time. The term 'relationship' can refer to the idiosyncratic modes of interacting of specific individuals, or to generalised patterns of behaviour, as in 'the mother- infant relationship'. In either case the characteristics of the relationship include those of the interactions involved, that is the content of the interactions and their qualities. It is because particular types of interaction tend to be associated together; that relationships can be named according to the types of interaction they characteristically contain (Simpson,
When a college student declares proudly that they are in a long distance relationship, people feel sorry for them. Many believe that long distance relationships are too difficile, and are not worth the trouble. For plenty, this is true. Long distance relationships primarily end when the partners have not mastered how to communicate effectively, and have subsequently lost their former intimacy. Distance is often more than just geography; college students are rapidly changing their lifestyles and perspectives to accommodate their new surroundings and experiences. Relationships are intended to be priorities, and the stress of balancing relationships with college is a dealbreaker to some.
Satisfaction is important within individual well-being, but also in many other areas including college romantic relationships. College students are going through a lot within these years, therefore, if they are in a relationship, long or not, satisfaction is necessary. In a long distance relationship scholars have predicted that “lower satisfaction predicted LDR breakups, whereas satisfaction was related to reliable alliance, which is similar to commitment (Pistole, C., Roberts, A., & Mosko, J. 2010). This research emphasized that satisfaction levels lead to breakups in a long distance relationship, not stating anything about a normal relationship that is geographically close; this leads to the idea of how geographic location is a primary factor in satisfaction levels. Continuing, when conflicts do arise, the conflict resolution regarding satisfaction focuses on, “frequency of mediated communication” (Brody, 2013). With mediated communication, the individuals in the relationship can become much more satisfied than they were before, therefore, resolving their
The theme of personal relationship is broad and complex and from the two attributes it derives its power and meaning. The close connection between people emanates from bonds and interactions that grow gradually and develop to mutual experiences. However, they are not absolutely static. They keep changing with change of behavior, the situation at hand and eventually evolve. Personal relationships are highly dynamic, and for people to enjoy the benefits, they must be ready to make sacrifices, employ a few skills to keep the fire burning, gather information, practice to do what a particular relationship demands and get social support if needed.
Romantic relationships are steadily evolving over the years, as college students tend to have various perspectives on the topic and share different values on its importance in their lives. There was an observation done of college women in the late 1970s and early 1980s in correlation to being in romantic relationships. Studies found that the peer culture established an ethos for women that emphasized romantic relationships with men as a major route of self-worth and prestige (Gilmartin, 2005). As studies show, being in romantic relationships has had a high value and priority since the late 70s and early 80s for women. Being perceived as (hetero) sexually attractive and having a “high status boyfriend elevated a young woman’s standing among her classmates, which means that schoolwork and friendship were pushed to the side (Gilmartin, 2005). This statement alone gives rise to the need to conduct a study on this issue as this article proves that there indeed may be a correlation between being in a relationship and academic performance. Due to woman having less of a concern on their course load, they are at a disadvantage for being given the opportunity to develop the necessary knowledge needed to propel them to their optimal professional advancement (Gilmartin, 2005). Previous findings have indicated that single men and women experience higher levels of mental instability, such as depression, anxiety, mood disorders, adjustment problems, and other forms of psychological distress (Braithwaite, S. R., Delevi, R., & Fincham, F. D., 2010).
When we hear the word “relationship”, we think of trust and loyalty. And most importantly, connection. When we have a positive relationship with someone, it helps us become healthier, happier, and more satisfied with ourselves. When we have a negative relationship with someone, it brings down our inner self such as our emotions and perspective in life. Having a relationship with someone can have a big impact in our life, whether it’s good or bad. I’ve experienced both. Most importantly, the good relationships I’ve had with others shape who I am today, and those people are my family and friends.