Personal Narrative: Growing Up With Divorced Parents

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Growing up with divorced parents would have to be one of the hardest challenges I have faced, but it was also a blessing. My parents had announced their divorce when I was 11 years old, but before that my father lived in the basement for a couple years. After they announced their divorce, my father moved an hour away. Although my parents got joint custody, I only saw my father three days a week and every other weekend, that is, if he wasn’t out of town for work. Being young at the time made a huge impact on me, because I didn’t understand what was going on. All I knew was my dad no longer lived with us. Going over to friend’s houses was tough, because they all had “big happy families”. I would always get frustrated and wonder why my friend’s parents were still together, but mine weren’t. …show more content…

My mom picked up dancing and she joined a singles group as a coping mechanism. Every weekend I went to my father’s house, my mother was out either running a race or dancing with her single friends. After some weekends with my father I would come home to find my mom crying over the divorce. We would talk about how everything made her feel and how I felt. Watching my mother cry weekend after weekend wasn’t ideal, because now as the child I was playing the role of a parent. My mom started to grow more independent and stronger than I had ever seen before. My mother started dating which was a big step, but it was uncomfortable meet new strange men. My mom would bring her new boyfriends to family events and introduce everyone. After a couple months or years she would like a new guy and then after the break ups she would rejoin her singles

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