Now, that I am older and more mature, I can do the things I have always wanted to do as well as the things I never knew I wanted to do. I can do without authority; I can do without a plan, but all within reason. I can get a job to earn money, and know not to do it away. I can live on my own with said money, but all I could afford is a dismal apartment. At this point, I am all but disillusioned by what I thought was freedom. Though still with my goals, they know longer seem to fit. What I Iooked forward to, I would rather not see.
Adulthood, as a child, was always portrayed as a time of freedom. The short sighted minds of children, as I once also had, only wanted to get away from the parent’s all-seeing eyes. I never thought a job too bad, what my mom did, my dad did, it didn’t seem too bad, but how wrong I was. I thought I could
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The fifty dollars I found in my dad’s wallet back then, made him seem o’ so powerful. I never doubted money’s holy strength, but now, all it is but weak, false numbers. The money needed simply to obtain the basic necessities, exceeded the realms of my feeble mind. It cast chains on my mentality, as I now hesitate to get the things I know I can afford. The money I thought would allow me to cruise through life is instead a weight on my back.
What I had wanted as a child, what I thought would have gotten, is all outside my grasp. That house I wanted? Maybe a bit smaller…and about that car, I’ll take a Honda Civic. I am now forced into the dilemma of choosing which dreams to fulfill. Even then none of them might come to be. I still seek to attain my goals however, but with all due diligence will I attain half-success. What I found didn’t fit with what I sought to be. What I was promised and what I believed will not come to be. I was once jubilant over the inevitability of adulthood, but now, all I seek is the impossibility of another
When you are growing up your surroundings influence the choices you make and how you grow up. The four text I studied are a short story “On the Sidewalk Bleeding” written by Evan Hunter, a novel “The Hunger Games” by Susan Collins, a film “Remember the Titans” directed by Jerry Bruckheimer and lyrics composed by Cat Stevens. These four texts express the theme of “how surroundings can influence your choices when growing up”
Although I grew up with both my parents, my dad was working a 12 hour shift, so he could provide for all his children. Even though I had the love of both my parents, I chose to hang out with my neighbors most of the day. The neighborhood I lived in was full of drugs, violence, and money. I wasn’t really into the violence part. My dad was working all day just so we could have the things we required. I didn’t want to waist our family’s money so I would never ask my Mom or Dad for any. I started hustling anything I had or could get my hands on. It was a bad decision but at the time I wasn’t thinking about the consequences. I was just trying to get my hands on a lot of money. I started robbing places and people, and ended up getting arrested a couple times. Before I started to realize that in the long run, it would turn out for the worst. The first time I got arrested, I didn’t even care. I just wanted to get done with the process of everything, and get back to what I was doing. My mind was set to think “Damn how could you make a silly mistake, and get caught like that.” My mother was totally shocked when she found out that I was getting into trouble, because I hadn’t gotten any complains from school for bad behavior, or bad grades, and I had never let my mom know that I was doing all these useless stuff. Ultimately I got sent to boarding school and now have completely switched up my life. My environment was having a big affect on my life. I learned from my mistakes and I am making a better future for myself. I don’t regret much because, I have gained so much knowledge from the wrong things I did in my life. The author Wes Moore had a change of environment and influences and turned out in a different situation, than the other Wes moor...
Due to the fact that she's slipping up at home, Alice runs away home with her hippy friend, Chris and begins a new clean start in San Francisco. It was very difficult and exhausting to find good jobs because they both were either inexperienced or underage. They spend their first weeks searching for jobs, slept on lumpy boxes, until they actually found a job. They took their responsibilities into their own hands. They moved into an apartment and replaced everything from broken table tops, to repainting the crack walls. They both were only 18 year-old teens that already experienced things any other teen would experience later in life. They had to learn how difficult life actually is in the real world. How hard it is to find a job with little to no education. In the story, Alice mentioned, "Get up, eat, work, eat, and fall into bed exhausted. I don't even take a bather every day anymore; it's too much trouble to wait around for the bathroom to be empty" (Anonymous, pg. 69). This quote from the story means being an adult is harder...
We were all hoping to grow up when we were young, as the time pass by, we are growing older and having more opportunities to decide what we want. However, every decision you made are always coming with many responsible. Why do we need to be responsible for our actions? What if we did not take responsibility for our own actions? Obviously, we’ll influence our future, but even more we may also influence other people’s life and their point of viewing us. In the short story “A Boy Grows Older” by Morley Callaghan, the main character Jim Sloane is a man that realize his own responsibility after he feels he may influence his parent’s life and decides to take his responsibility in the end. We should take personal responsibility for our actions for preventing us to affect others.
Growing up for me some would say it was rather difficult and in some ways I would agree. There have been a lot of rough times that I have been through. This has and will affect my life for the rest of my life. The leading up to adoption, adoption and after adoption are the reasons my life were difficult.
Similarly, to this the short story the “Greasy Lake” by Boyle Coraghessan teaches that adulthood is not achieved without hardship or struggle.
I do not believe anyone's transition into adulthood is enjoyable or smooth, losing your ignorance and being made aware of real world problems isn't exactly what you wish for. The event that marked my transition into adulthood is certainly nothing I would wish on anyone, but if I had not experienced this, I wouldn't have become someone who learned to take responsibility, and find reasonable solutions to seemingly impossible tasks.
The father says to him, “When your dreams are of some world the never was or of some world that never will be and you are happy again then you will have given up. Do you understand? And you cant give up. I wont let you.” (McCarthy,
In the first section of The Defining Decade, was work, which disused which steps one should talk into the right direction. Many Twentysomethings, mostly those who are right out of college, discover the aspects of adult hood to be disheartening. Many established jobs discourage hiring adults right out of college, due to not having much work experience or knowledge. Many other Twentysomethings have thoughts of not wanting to trap themselves into a job that could become depressing. Jay talks about the danger you walk into as you enter your thirties, not being able to have the dream job you which you had because you either do not have the experience or credentials to pay for your dream lifestyle. Jay talks about thirtsomethings clients that cry in her office because they
For the last 18 years or so, we have been influenced and directed by parents, teachers, and other authority figures. We have been told when to get up, when to work, when to play, when to eat, sleep, come home, go out, etc., etc., etc. Now we are moving on. As we do, let me remind you of two principles we have been taught, the principle of freedom and the principle of success. As adults, a whole new world of personal freedom awaits us.
Growing up as a “bright” teenager I have habits of making some “smart”choices. I do things like studying for test, being nice to my parents, and getting good grades. Then came one day when I was in eighth grade, I was walking from my friends house to mine, I saw a steel rim with a hard ground lying beneath it. You know teenagers, we’re about as dumb as a bucket of hair. A teenager with something to hang on, sounds scary right.
Emerging adults are always in the search of their own identity while experimenting with their life, love life and career path. Constant changes in emerging adult’s life are common. From changing residential place to love life, work and education, instability often presents during emerging adulthood (Santrock, 2013). In addition, emerging adults tend to place focus on themselves where they have no commitment and responsibilities toward others. This provides them a great chance to exercise their own will and to execute their plans for the future. During emerging adulthood, many feel like as if they do not belong to either adolescents or adult. The transition ends only when they have distinct marks of an adult. According to Arnett (as cited in Santrock, 2014), “emerging adulthood is the age of possibilities” (p. 296). The age of possibilities is when an individual has the opportunity to turn things around in life, especially when they are from a poor family
We all have a dream, but the difference is how we realise our dream, how we obtain our dream, and how our dream changes us. This is evident in our learning of dreams and aspirations through the texts Flowers for Algernon by Daniel Keys, What’s Eating Gilbert Grape? by Lasse Hallström, and through my own studies of Million Dollar Baby by Clint Eastwood. These three highly acclaimed texts represent the same ideas on dreams and aspirations, which can be defined as hope, desire or the longing for a condition or achievement, but these texts express the same ideas differently, shaping our understanding of dreams and aspirations.
Once a child goes to school, they could express many of their thoughts, feelings, and needs, and they start taking more significant steps towards independence. Meanwhile, as we go into adulthood, adults can choose things like where they want to live, what they want to eat, what job they will do, etc. In adulthood, it consists of changes in lifestyles and relationships. Furthermore, as an adult, life changes, such as leaving home, finding a long‐term romantic relationship, beginning a career, and starting a family. Many young adults first leave their house to attend college or to take a job in another city, and that’s where their independence starts. Also, Adults attain at least some level of attitudinal, emotional, and physical freedom.
We all have those days where we feel so hopeless or unable to do anything right. We have all felt that we couldn’t finish school or other life challenges. We question everything about life, that’s what happened with me. I had never had a normal life and now it takes a turn for the worse. I grew up under the circumstances that forced me to become more responsible and mature, which has enabled me to succeed later in life.