above given quote gives us a clear understanding of personal effectiveness. Personal effectiveness is a hallmark of positive psychology. This is primarily concerned with planning implementing methods of accomplishing those things that are them. (Nongard, 2014)Another related concept of personal effectiveness is flourishing. Fredrickson (2005) gives a definition of flourishing, which is “It is optimal human functioning. It comprises four parts: Goodness, creativity, growth, and resilience”. Therefore, personal effectiveness can be understood as making the most of personal resources available to us. These personal resources includes our talents, time and the overall potential to thrive. According to Mitch McCrimmon (2010) personally effective …show more content…
Self- awareness is how well one understands oneself. Increased awareness of “self” will result in understanding your strengths and competencies, your weaknesses and faults. However just by understanding your “self ''you do not become effective. One can understand the self by understanding one’s own Johari Window pattern. There are ways of increasing personal effectiveness once there is a complete understanding of one’s own Johari Window. In the typical Johari Window, a large or pen arena indicates greater and more open exchange of information between individuals and others around them. (Nuty, 2011) This when it is understood in the context of personal effectiveness, contributes to increased personal effectiveness. The increasing the arena can be done in two ways - decreasing the hidden area and decreasing the blind …show more content…
It is defined as being sensitive to and insightful about other people. It is the ability to pick up verbal and non-verbal cues from others. This characteristic should be combined with openness and using feedback usefully to increase personal effectiveness (Nuty, 2011). According to Egan ( 2010) , to be a counsellor the person should be perceptive. Initially, some counsellor trainees are quite reluctant to help clients challenge themselves. They become victims of what has been called the “MUM effect,” the tendency to “keep mum about undesirable messages,” to withhold bad news even when it is in the other’s interest to hear it. The importance of perceptiveness is emphasised by Egan, because it is one of the core dimensions of listening skills in the counselling process. Feeling empathy for others is not helpful if the helper’s perceptions are not accurate. The kind of perceptiveness needed to be a good helper comes from basic intelligence, social intelligence, experience, reflecting on experience, developing wisdom, and, more immediately, tuning in to clients, listening carefully to what they have to say, and thoughtfully and objectively processing what they say. Perceptiveness is part of social–emotional maturity. (Egan,
In order to become better leaders, individuals need to identify their strengths and weaknesses. Though individuals can identify strengths and weaknesses through formal processes, they can also use informal means such as self-reflection. The fact that individuals have a tendency to gravitate toward the things they do well, things such as ease of learning, tendency to participate in certain activities, and satisfaction gained from performing specific tasks can provide clear pointers to underlying talents (Key-Roberts, 2014).
"To be self aware is to be conscious of one's character, including beliefs, values, qualities, strengths and limitation. It is about knowing oneself" (Burnard 1992).
The counselor accomplishes the above by expressing empathy, developing discrepancies, going along with resistance and supporting self-efficacy. Moreover, the counselor guides the client toward a solution that will lead to permanent posi...
Listening is a vital and important part of communication. While speaking clearly and concisely is imperative, true listening is central to speaking with mindfulness and in the case of the counselor, this mindfulness has the possibility of leading clients to their own solutions to life’s tough circumstances. In his book, Petersen (2007) breaks down the communication cycle so that we can be aware of how we react when people share their emotions with us, and how to effectively communicate by listening and speaking in turn to build strong and supportive relationships, whether they are personal or professional.
The act of self-awareness is built through emotional intelligence which is an important factor in building therapeutic relationship. Nurses should built an understanding of clients health situation considering social, cultural, emotional, physical spiritual and psychological conditi...
Counseling skills has provided me with a valuable insight into the helping relationship and how it is both created and maintained in order to encourage growth and development in the client. The factors involved within the helping relationship include considering Roger’s core conditions, congruence, unconditional positive regard and empathy as the three main characteristics necessary in a helping relationship. In order to fully incorporate all three of Roger’s core conditions, I as the counselor must be self-aware, as a lack of self-awareness may inhibit truly listening and understanding the client; self-awareness can be enhanced through exercises such as Johari’s window. Counseling skills such as body language and active listening also plays a role within encouraging the client to open up and can help me as the counselor convey empathy.
The counselling process is one that may last for as little as one session or for years, it is within the middles stages of the helping relationship that particular counselling skills such as a focusing, challenging and immediacy can be implemented, as well as use of advanced empathy that can be applied due to increased familiarity with a speaker. Many actions may occur within middles stage of the helping relationship such as transitions that occur for a multitude of reasons and the outcome of which can vary based on the attitude of the speaker. Self-awareness remains vital throughout the entire counselling relationship due to the continual influence of empathy in the helping relationship and remaining aware my own motives and values when using advanced empathy and specific counselling skills. Ethics and boundaries are also involved within the counselling process as within a counselling relationship, I as the counsellor, must be careful with the balance or expenditure of power when challenging.
The relationship between the counsellor and client is fundamental to the success of the counselling experience and the results that will follow. The counsellor and client need to build rapport and trust. The client needs to feel comfortable enough to open up and discuss their inner most thoughts and fears in the knowledge that the discussion is confidential and non-judgemental. The resulting relationship should be one of mutual respect.
The book, The lost art of listening gives many interesting examples that are useful for pastoral care and counseling. Each chapter gives thoughtful insights into what good listening is. The author explained, how each person yearns for someone to listen to them and also understands them. In any ministry weather is pastoral, caregiving or counseling the essence of good listening is empathy, which can be achieved only by suspending our preoccupation with ourselves, and entering into experience of the other person. Learning to Listen Improves Relationships (p. 10). A listener’s empathy—grasping what we’re trying to say and showing it—builds a bond of understanding, linking us to someone who hears us and cares, and thus confirms that our feelings
They should be sensitive towards the client’s emotions and not be judgemental. Approach should also be developmentally and culturally appropriate and interaction void of any prejudice and discrimination (see ACA E.5.b. Cultural Sensitivity (in Diagnosis of Mental Disorders) & E.6.c. Culturally Diverse Populations (in Instrument Selection)). For example, while counselling a child, counsellor must be able to understand the perception of the child which may involve elements of immaturity and fantasy and not seek to correct the child’s worldview to match that of an adult. Such behaviour will diminish the child’s self-esteem and stress the child, causing harm instead of
It is very important to listen and pay attention because as a Counselor you do not want to miss out on any important information that can help determine the root of the problem. I also find that being a good listener is one of my strengths as well as being compassionate, open-minded, and sympathetic. I overcame many personal hardships in my life, and because of those hardships I am a stronger person, with a positive outlook on life that can help make a difference in someone. One of my personal characteristics that I feel that I need to improve on is that I become too emotionally involved because I care about those I will work with. I want to be able to do my job without my emotions getting in the way. The best way to do that is to learn strategies and techniques to help me improve. I am willing to learn and work hard to make sure I become a qualified professional for this
Listening skills is a skill which are mandatory for every counselor to be able to provide effective counseling to their client. Listening has no specific definition but often people tend to get confused between listening and hearing. When we hear we only perceive sounds but when we listen, our hearing is accompanied by a deliberate and purposeful act of mind. In short, listening means to get meaning from what is heard. Some of the reasons why listening is important is:
During my initial self-evaluation and assessment of me as a perspective counselor, self- awareness was an essential aspect of becoming an effective counselor. I am aware of certain things that can prevent me from becoming a competent counselor such as being unaware of my strengths and weaknesses. As a current community support worker, I have already had the opportunity to work with individuals who require different levels of support. Providing assistance to the specific population has given me the chance to utilize my communication skills. My work experience has also allowed me to be more self-aware, and open minded. After taking the techniques of counseling class I am more than confident that I have grown professionally since the beginning
Having this capability will assist the individual to execute different kinds of communication effectively. When looking at self-awareness in a clinical setting, it allows individuals to understand themselves, therefore they are able to reflect back on why they react a certain way in different situations. By being aware of one’s actions, an individual learns from their past experiences, therefore leading to a more understanding and effective communication (O’Toole, 2012). It also increases self-understanding and results in greater control of one’s thought and behaviour. In order to connect therapeutically and communicate effectively with other people, it is important to know oneself and one’s true intention (Kotzman A & Kotzman M, 2007). This enhances the ability of the individuals to perform effective communication, whether it be with a patient or in everyday interactions. In order to provide a good person-centred care or women-centred care, understanding the fundamental values of these caring systems will improve the individual’s
They are also able to decipher nonverbal meanings, such as tone of voice, body language, and gestures, in which they can sense a professional’s discomfort or biases (272). An effective client and professional relationship relies on two components including expertness and trustworthiness. “Expertness is an ability dimension while trustworthiness is a motivational component.” Expertness is expressed in how knowledgeable and trained a professional is in adequately dealing with certain clients’ issues, and is most respected when the professional displays this when addressing and recognizing diversity as an influential dynamic (273). Trustworthiness is when a professional is honest, motivated, and sincere in their interactions with the client. While ideally, it would be more beneficial for both parties, if the professional contained each vital set of therapeutic traits, this is not always the case. Sometimes, a client will excuse a therapist for lacking one of the two, and sometimes, a lack of either of these will contribute to the underutilization and not returning to these sessions