Never Compromise The Value Of A Person
Unfortunately, things have to get so bad, so painful, or so out of control for most us before we realize how important it is to honor and value ourselves consistently in every moment, situation, and relationship.
For those of us who never learned to love ourselves and for those of us who often feel inadequate, insecure, undeserving, or unworthy of love, we will constantly abandon and betray ourselves for the love of others to the point where we repeatedly find ourselves in situations and relationships where we feel used, unappreciated, valueless or worthless to those around us as well as to ourselves.
"When you start compromising yourself or your morals for the people around you, it 's probably time to change the people around you." - Anonymous
Do you think you should not change anything about your personality for the people around you? It sounds so true, but then what 's wrong with compromising yourself a little for the people around you?
Don 't compromise even if it hurts to be yourself. If you have principles, nothing should push you to change them no matter what the consequences are. We are not actually victims in any way, because we’re the ones who have compromised ourselves for the conditional love, acceptance, approval, attention, and support of other people and thus can change this self-destructive pattern. If we look at ourselves, most of us will see that we often do not honor and value what we truly think, feel, want and need, because we’re afraid of, we don’t know how to or we don’t feel that we deserve to. In other words, we all compromise ourselves to varying degrees on a daily basis just to “keep the peace” and to avoid confrontation.
Some of us compromise ourselves in eve...
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...low self esteem. People often complain about their problems without doing anything about it. Realize what your flaws and fix them. Even the best people out there have flaws. It is all these things put together that makes you, you. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, embrace who you are and find that satisfaction in yourself. You have your own instincts. If something does not feel right, if you feel like you are not being yourself or if you feel uncomfortable around certain people, leave them. You have to make a distinction between people who care about you and people who use you. Be smart and listen to yourself. So stay away from anything that makes you go against your beliefs, your morals and your values. And just enjoy life to the fullest!
“The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.” ~Benjamin Disraeli
Never become complacent and let my interpersonal relationship becomes stagnant, which can lead to resentment and conflict. Weighing the cost verses the rewards may not always be the solution for my relationship; simply, because the cost may ultimately outweigh the rewards. The need for autonomy can have reverse effects and may not lead to the closeness that’s expected. In, turn the very thing that, I try to be open about in my relationship can inadvertently cause me to protect my feelings in the
...and “shame”. Being able to develop this values will build a character strong enough to control your temper in hard, circumstantial situations, and what’s even more important, itll guide you through the correct path between choosing whats best vs. what’s the right thing to do.
Don't emulate others and be yourself. Emerson said, " Imitation is suicide " and Thoreau said, " If a plant cannot live according to its nature, it dies; and so a man." If you don't believe in your innate power; if you don't follow your intuition, you will spontaneously follow others and kill your soul. Both of them also discuss nonconformity. Emerson states, " who so would be a man must be a nonconformist ." To be great you must follow your instincts and you have to be yourself. Don't imitate others. Thoreau said, " a man laid out alive and standing , and already, as one may say, buried under arms with funeral accomplishments. " People misunderstood great figures as Emerson said, " To be great is to be misunderstood" and Thoreau said, " They are commonly treated as enemies. " Both state that people will always treat you with injustice so don't follow them by being a conformist and be unique, great people always were misunderstood and treated as
“Treat others the way you want to be treated” is something burned into the minds of
...here is a time where all the fighting needs to stop and someone needs to step back and become the better person. Shylock should have done this but he got too greedy and in return loses nearly everything he loves. People constantly make choices every day and although they put little thought in them, they mean a great deal. There are various choices and the ones we pick to pursue could stay with a person forever. People need to think about what they are doing and why they are doing it before coming to a decision. A sense of control is very key in this. Without control people could all be doing very hurtful things and ruining society as it is. As a whole, people need to be aware of the ramification of choices. For it is the choices people make that reveals them as they truly are, not their abilities.
A penny saved may be a penny earned, just as a penny spent may begin to better the world. Andrew Carnegie, a man known for his wealth, certainly knew the value of a dollar. His successful business ventures in the railroad industry, steel business, and in communications earned him his multimillion-dollar fortune. Much the opposite of greedy, Carnegie made sure he had what he needed to live a comfortable life, and put what remained of his fortune toward assistance for the general public and the betterment of their communities. He stressed the idea that generosity is superior to arrogance. Carnegie believes that for the wealthy to be generous to their community, rather than live an ostentatious lifestyle proves that they are truly rich in wealth and in heart. He also emphasized that money is most powerful in the hands of the earner, and not anyone else. In his retirement, Carnegie not only spent a great deal of time enriching his life by giving back; but also often wrote about business, money, and his stance on the importance of world peace. His essay “Wealth” presents what he believes are three common ways in which the wealthy typically distribute their money throughout their life and after death. Throughout his essay “Wealth”, Andrew Carnegie appeals to logos as he defines “rich” as having a great deal of wealth not only in materialistic terms, but also in leading an active philanthropic lifestyle. He solidifies this definition in his appeals to ethos and pathos with an emphasis on the rewards of philanthropy to the mind and body.
Our actions are based on our surroundings, we use what is around us to help us adapt and become better human beings. Another point of view on this issue might be that our choices can be influenced by people around us, although sometimes it may not best in our interest to become a follower. For example, we may go along with a decision of our follow classmates, helping us had guidance in our decision making process. Values and morals can not only guide but inspire and motivate us, giving us energy for doing something meaningful. Therefore I believe we must be honest with ourselves, recognizing the difference between right and wrong. Of course, there are some people who just cannot do the right thing, no one lives up to all their ideals, but I believe people are more honored to have some sense of morals and values that only make us look or feel good and just to things to make themselves look like they are a better person. In all honestly everyone is different and I would like to believe that kindness is passed down. Like the saying goes a smile is contiguous and sometimes that is all someone one needs to realize life is not all that bad. To leave off I would like to end this with Immanuel Kant, he
“To stand up for what you believe in is more important than to be scared of imprisonment or death.” – Socrates The Apology
“There is only one way in which one can endure man’s inhumanity to man and that is to try, in one’s own life, to exemplify man’s humanity to man.” by Alan Paton
Love is different for each and every person. For some, it comes easy and happens early in life. For others, such as Janie Mae Crawford, in Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston, it happened much later in life. Oddly, after two failed marriages. Janie sought love in several different men and marriages, hoping to find true love; however, she was often left with abuse, hardship, and a broken-heart. As stated by Hoffman “Well, I think everyone struggles with self-love.” Amour Propre¹ Love for one’s parents is honorable, love for one’s child is unconditional, but self-love is often denied. Loving ourselves isn’t a one-time event. It’s an endless, moment by moment ongoing process. It wasn’t until Janie found self-love that she discovered confidence, peace, and fulfillment. Her finding of self-love helped her understand freedom and self-worth.
Act in such a way that you always treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of any other, never simply as a means but always at the same time as an end (O’Neill,
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind.” Emerson is a firm believer of maintaining self-reliance and values rather than following the crowd. He also explains that in order to be truly successful in life, a person must make decisions and trust in his or her judgment. In today’s society, teenagers are more likely to not be self-reliant because the teens feel they will be judged for having different beliefs. People today need to realize that they should not conform to be like the rest of the world, they must not depend on the judgment and criticism of others, and people must refuse to travel somewhere in order to forget their personal problems. Through Emerson’s piece, readers are able to reflect on how people in the world today must try to be independent of others and uphold their personal opinions and philosophy.
There comes a point in everyone’s life when they are pressurized by society’s demands. One is given the option to either conform or challenge these social norms in order to suit one’s life.
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" Ralph Waldo Emerson. We live in a world where society tells you to be yourself and then judges you. We love in a constant fear of being judged or called a weirdo. Though the barons that hold us to this conformity are strong, many manage to break through. No other person in this universe is exactly like you. Everyone has a different quality to bring to the table and that is what makes out world such a diverse place. Embracing your assets to society and not trying to imitate someone else will not only change your outlook on certain situations but on your life as a whole.
... is impossible for one to accommodate for all the desires of others throughout one's life. Asking from a person to give his all to everyone would be degrading to his or her moral identity. Yet, there should always be certain limit of consideration to the people we share our lives with, or even those we interact with on regular basis. Being settled in communities and societies creates a moral obligation on each person towards others. I believe that almost all moral theories fail at some point. Henceforth I think that one should rely on common sense morality, and evaluate each situation according to the limits and conditions governing it. In some situations egoism might be the most rational and moral doctrine to follow, yet in others one should be completely altruistic, so the matter becomes dependent on the moral agent for the evaluation of each situation separately.