There are many ways to cope with stress, fear, and anger. Some people use alcohol or drugs to cope. Others can’t and do harm to themselves. I chose a positive way to escape my troubles. My difficulties started when I was young around the age of four, continuing to the present day. I was bullied, always aggressive, and am always overwhelmed with stress. I found a way to control these problems through reading books. I read books as a means to cope with these negative emotions and improve my ability to make my life better. My early childhood, at the age of four, was a difficult one. I was just diagnosed with Bipolar Mark 1 Depression, Asperger Syndrome, and Autism. I was very angry and the littlest things set me off, like being poked or made fun of I would go into a rage fit. I would throw desk, chairs and other heavy, blunt objects at people without realizing I did it. I was always avoiding people because I felt I was a danger to everyone. I was then put on Clonidine and Concerta. …show more content…
She brought light to my life and we were happy. One day I told her how I felt she said she was happy that I told her the truth, but she was with someone else. I felt cold, broken, unable to process my life correctly. I read books related to losing the one you love. I felt like the authors might as well wrote those books based on how I felt. Over the course of roughly two years I slowly learn that it is ok to love someone that doesn’t love you as long as they don’t use it against you. The girl I once loved never doing, but at the age of eight-teen I soon found I was no longer in love with her. I found I have fallen for another girl, my current girlfriend. Lately I have read books about how to strengthen love even though you are not close to the one you love. Now we are in different parts of the state, but we agreed to never give up on each other and I plan to go and marry her after I get my college
It’s one of the many inevitable parts of life. Whether it’s busting out a research paper for Psychology at the last minute, expecting your first child to be born, or making sure you’re up in time to catch the Saturday morning cartoons, it’s clearly evident that everyone goes through stress. The real question is, how is stress handled in our society? A person is defined by how they handle the stressors in their lives and how they overcome stressful moments. This paper will explore the aspects of stress management and how it can help others in their times of stress.
As children, our characteristics are rapidly evolving. The unique combination of our innate chemistry and our experiences determine the trajectory of our lives. How we view the world, other people, ourselves and life in general is becoming an embedded pattern that affects all of our future interactions. Some of us emerge from childhood with a relatively stable set of characteristics and coping strategies which helps us lead a satisfying life. Yet, some of us emerge with traits that create huge obstacles in our relationships with others and in how we resolve the difficulties that are presented to us throughout life. If enough of our traits are maladaptive, it is very likely that we have developed what is considered to be a personality disorder.
Starting years ago as a child, unaware of the real world, I would spend days reading, escaping the hatred of life. I assumed everyone did the same thing, either with TV, games, or wearing a figurative mask and socializing. Reading books was my way out, I got to escape the feelings of hate and sadness, while being alone as the family thought reading to be a healthy pastime, which I agree with. I kept to myself, forcing others away finding reasons to stay unassociated and unconnected with other
If you had the choice between your phone and a book,you would probably without thinking grab your phone. But what if you knew that reading is crucial to a future. In “Reading for pleasure Is in Painful Decline” by Stephen L. Carter and “Twilight of the books” by Caleb Crain, both authors argue about the state of reading in The United States. Within both passages they give valid points as to why and how the state of reading are negatively affecting the country. Stephen L. Carter represents how the decline in reading for fun is the main concern, while on the other hand, Caleb Crain shows it’s technology and social media that actually are the main contributors.
Coping with stress in inevitable but there are various strategies people can learn to cope with in our everyday life. Benjamin Lahey, a Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Neuroscience at the University of Chicago, wrote an article “Coping with Stress” on how to handle them. Everybody is different in their own way so not everyone is going to deal with stress the same way. In the article, Professor Lahey mentions positive and negative, productive and non-productive methods people handle stress through effective coping, ineffective coping, and defense mechanisms.
Everyone experiences anger at some point in their life. We all have those topics that if it gets brought up we automatically go into our defense mood, whether it be sex, religion or politics . We all have had those skeletons in our closets that we don’t like to bring out. Commonly anger and aggression are used together but they aren’t the same thing according to the Interpersonal Conflict textbook, “Anger differs from aggression is an attack whereas anger is the feeling connected to a perceived unfairness or injustice. Anger can help people set boundaries when they need to be set and to right wrongs.”
For her privacy, I'll refer to her as Rin. I was happy for the first few months, but the relationship became suffocating later on. Rin wanted my undivided attention at all times of the day. In addition, Rin had severe anxiety. My love for Rin slowly died and obligation took its place. I felt obliged to stay with her. It's nauseating that I felt this way, but what else could I do? I thought that I had to stay with Rin to keep her safe from herself. As a result, I stayed with her, not as a lover, but a caretaker. One evening with friends, Rin demanded we leave, for Rin didn't like that she had to share me. I couldn't deal with her distancing me from friends anymore. I called Rin and cut all ties between us and our mutual friends. I gave her neither chance for dialogue nor reprisal, just like Paul Neruda. In hindsight, I didn't love her. Because I am a loser who has no chance in love, I was more in love with the idea of a girlfriend. As a result, I didn't love Rin, I loved my girlfriend. If I had truly had feelings for Rin, I would've resolved my problems through dialogue, not by running away like a
Seward, B. (2012). Managing stress: Principles and strategies for health and well-being. (7th ed.). Burlington, Ma: Jones and Barlett Publishing.
My relationship with books and reading has not been the greatest adventure for me thus far. I will not say that all my experience has been terrible but for the most part not that great. I know for me it started when I was little and unfortunately it has carried to my adulthood.
Attention Getter: Life is like a huge roller coaster, a journey full of twists and turns, and ups and downs. And sometimes in this journey there arises various situations where one is unable to deal with these turns, let alone have the energy to face the ups and downs. In situations when the downward spiral becomes difficult to overcome it seems to linger on and on. The major cause of such feelings, are the chaotic activities of life. Stress is no stranger to our daily life. Stress in its severer form can lead to everything that we care about and love become strained and puts a burden on our physical and mental health. Therefore, we must take a hold of our stress, hang on to life and practice helpful techniques to vanish these stressful dilemmas. When we understand our situation, the better we will be able to get through them with ease.
...Three techniques that I use and other people can use to cope with stress are practicing emotion-focused coping, building time-management skills, and regularly practicing meditation. By using these techniques, I am able to lower my stress that I have from homework, socializing, and the newfound responsibilities I have gained since attending college.
But don't get angry on anything and everything. When you get angry, choose to let it off, take a few breaths, or countdown to ten, or analyse why you are upset. Realizing that you are caught with anger is the right way to begin to deal with it. All your anger is about something what has happened in the past or will happen in the future and not what is happening in the present moment. So if you can be in the present moment you cannot hold on to anger for long. So be in the present moment to avoid holding on to anger. Physical exercises can relieve your
Anger is, perhaps, the most notorious of all human emotions. It has the ability to spring up when we least expect it, an almost natural and inherent response to an offense or frustration. Humanity’s natural tendency to engage in a primal “fight or flight” response to challenges has unavoidably led to anger being a primary response for many. Still for others, anger is a longer lasting thing, taking root and burning into ashes of bitterness or misgiving. It is obvious that anger is unhealthy – it almost defies intuition to say anything further. However, it remains a complex human emotion. Sure, everyone feels it at some point or another. But where does it come from? How does it manifest? And, most importantly, how can it be taken under control? a detailed examination of the nature of anger and, in response, how it may be managed, may give further insight into this human emotion.
Modern life is full of troubles, frustrations and deadlines. People have to suffer stressful from many directions and they seem to be consent to live with stress. Many people think that they can stand with stressful and it is harmless, but it is not. If people live in stress during a long period of time, it has bad effect to health and spirit. Therefore, there is actually that you can protect yourself by understanding stress and how to reduce these harmful effects caused by stress.
DO YOU THINK BOOKS ARE STILL A RICH SOURCE OF INFORMATION IN THE TIME OF ELECTRONIC MEDIA?