Heartbreaker vrs. Sweetheart
From my dating experiences in the past, I have come to realize that of all the different guys that there are two main types. The first one I call the heartbreaker and the other is the sweetheart. This observation, that I have made, is not based on appearance, and it is mostly based on my own opinion.
When I was in high school I dated the football star, who was the most popular guy in school, and I thought it was the best thing that could happen... until I got to know him. This guy was very possessive, controlling, and extremely cocky. He was a heartbreaker type and luckily enough, I realized that before it was too late! The typical heartbreaker type is usually a very aggressive, selfish person. He often times is the guy who seems too good to be true. When involved in a relationship, the heartbreaker feels the need to be in control and to make most of the decisions. Sometimes he can be emotionally and physically abusive. This guy has probably been known to brag about "how far he got" with a girl sexually. Of course this would develop a bad repu...
complicated relationship in that people often carry the baggage of past relationships into the next.
Through your previous dating experiences throughout the years up until now which character were you at certain moments? Were you all these women?
... own childhood; no matter it are security and nurturing or abandonment and neglect, guidance and respect, or abuse and disdain. Not only the man becomes psychologically or physically abusive, but he is also aggressive towards his partner whenever he feels that his experience of rejection and consecutive disruption cannot be soothed by the defence that he mounted. Those people with a history of neglect or abuse, they usually not able to have confident in their partners whereby they perceive their partners as enemies instead of allies. These abusive relationships are often repeatable becoming more intense as if the man is riding on a rollercoaster ride. The rejection-abusive cycle is considered complete when the man felt he is not appreciated as his unrealistic expectation on relationships is not fulfilled - closeness and intimacy, in other words, further rejection.
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Hall, J. A., Carter, S., Cody, M. J., & Albright, J. M. (2010). Individual Differences in the Communication of Romantic Interest: Development of the Flirting Styles Inventory. Communication Quarterly, 58(4), 365-393. doi:10.1080/01463373.2010.524874
...ile dating. He consciously knows what he wants in a long-term relationship but there are also things he is unaware of. In order to consciously answer this question he must be fully open to commitment and love. In addition, he must find his true identity. Once he has found his true identity he can find the intimacy he is looking for.
has the gentle heart of a woman but is not inconsistent as is the way
this is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
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