Guidelines for a Successful Relationship

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Romantic relationships have the capability of bringing out the best and the worst in people. In a healthy relationship, partners complement one another. The love and support they offer not only strengthens their bond; it can make them stronger as individuals too. An unhealthy relationship can have quite the opposite effect. The wrong partner can influence a person to become someone they have no desire to be. In his play A Doll’s House, Henrik Ibsen demonstrates the impact that equality and honesty can have on relationships.
A Doll’s House is set during a time when neither men nor society treated women as equals. Women were expected to be content as dutiful housewives. Nora and Torvald’s relationship reflects the unbalanced society. In Torvald’s eyes men are superior to women. Preoccupied with how society perceives him, he is appalled at the thought of others believing that his wife would have any input whatsoever in his decisions; “Do you suppose I am going to make myself ridiculous before my whole staff, to let people think I am a man to be swayed by all sorts of outside influence?” (Ibsen 35). Torvald controls practically everything; he finds power in her weakness and declares to her “I should not be a man if this womanly helplessness did not just give you a double attractiveness in my eyes” (Ibsen 64). Nora only has say over insignificant aspects of daily life, such as shopping or decorating for Christmas. In the beginning she is not bothered by the fact that Torvald treats her like his possession. Her father also treated her as an object, so she believes that is how they express their love for her. By the end of the play Nora comes to the heartbreaking realization that Torvald and her father have held her back by using her for...

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...owing his love is through his actions. He may blackmail Nora, but he feels it’s a task that is necessary in order to keep his job and provide for his children. To show Kristine his love, he ends the extortion by delivering the bond to the Helmer’s box, thereby clearing them from any illegal crime.
Kristine and Krogstad have been lucky enough to have achieved self-awareness. They know that they need each other in order to succeed in this society. Nora never had the chance to find herself before she married Torvald. In order for them to grow as individuals they need to separate. The dissolution of their marriage is necessary; staying together would only keep them repeating the same habits. Partners can either help us in becoming the person we need to be, or they can hinder that growth. Having the right person by our side has the potential to determine who we become.

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