Gay Option By Stephanie Fairyington Summary

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Is being attracted to the same sex by choice, or by force? Stephanie Fairyington the author of the article “gay option”, wrote about an event in her life, that she endured, due to her same sex attraction. Coming out to the world, that you are homosexual can be in famously hard. Stephanie Fairyington shared her story and discussed a bit about this topic, she even shared her ups and down, and what she believed is the nature of being gay. Formally some of the stuff she said can be arguable, but it’s her point of view on the situation. The gay option she felt it was forced upon her, and she can’t rid of it. This essay was created around 2010. This is important, because legalization of same sex marriages had become in full effect in other countries …show more content…

“My mother continuous to talk about my lesbianism as if it were a genetic defect.” (Fairyington, 2010) Being gay in the world is almost a disease, that’s everyone is afraid to let people know they are “infected” with homosexuality. Between the excommunication from churches all the way down to the disclaiming from those who are your family and supposed to support you through anything. Which Fairyington said if there were some type of cure for this, she would take it, but it’s just not. She also talks about how she’s just naturally attracted to the same sex. Meaning she tries to become heterosexual but it just doesn’t work that way. She says the only choice she has unto her personal attractions is choosing to follow her desires. Meaning that one can’t choose who they like but choose to act upon their feelings. If she was to be able to hinder her desires, then she will not choose to be that way. Until the conservative allies see that than homosexuality will stop being viewed as nature’s mistake. “What does it say about our self-worth and status in society if we as gay people must practice a politics of pity to secure our place in the world.”

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