Although overprotective parenting initially might be intended to raise a successful, well-rounded individual, it often gets taken to another level. In turn, there are many negative effects on a child. Many parents often get carried away as power and control take over. Over time, overprotective parenting turns into a dictatorship with no meaning, and children are broken down mentally and emotionally. Also, parents who strive for perfection in a child eventually tear that child apart by making the child feel that they are not good enough; this leads to anxiety and a lack of self-confidence. A child might succeed and perfect many aspects of life, but it is simply impossible to be perfect all the time. Therefore, once a student enters high school …show more content…
Thirty-two fathers with children between the ages of 2 and 7 were part of this qualitative study, who were asked how they viewed overprotective parents (Brussoni and Olsen). It was found that the majority of the fathers questioned had negative attitudes toward overprotective parenting. Generally, fathers believe that overprotective parenting will set children up for failure in the future. Some concerns that fathers possess include a lack of development and self-confidence if children are not exposed to opportunities (Brussoni, L.L. Olsen). Research was also carried out on college students to determine the effects of helicopter parenting on the students. It was proven that college students who perceive their parents as “warm and encouraging of autonomy” are likely to develop healthy peer attachments, whereas college students who perceive their parents as “cold and controlling” are likely to develop unhealthy peer attachments (van Ingen). “The quality of peer attachment has been linked to self-esteem, general self-concept, locus of control, empathy, prosocial behavior, optimism, life satisfaction, and scholastic competence” (van Ingen). In addition, adolescents who had healthy relationships with their peers but were not as attached to parents had “more sympathy and less depression and aggression” than did adolescents who were severely attached to parents but unhealthily attached to peers (van Ingen). Therefore, attempting to protect a child from minor injuries and holding them back by the fear of failure will ruin a child’s
Coben states, “…overprotective parents fight their kids’ battles on the playground, berate coaches about playing time and fill out college applications…” (19). This is a weak argument because it inadvertently suggests that overprotectiveness
The role of the father, a male figure in a child’s life is a very crucial role that has been diminishing over the years. An absent father can be defined in two ways; the father is physically not present, or the father is physically present, but emotionally present. To an adolescent, a father is an idolized figure, someone they look up to (Feud, 1921), thus when such a figure is an absent one, it can and will negatively affect a child’s development. Many of the problems we face in society today, such as crime and delinquency, poor academic achievement, divorce, drug use, early pregnancy and sexual activity can be attributed to fathers being absent during adolescent development (Popenoe, 1996; Whitehead, 1993). The percentage of adolescents growing up fatherless has risen from 17% to 36% in just three decades between 1960 and 1990 (Popenoe, 1996). Dr. Popenoe estimates this number will increase to approximately 50% by the turn of the century (Popenoe, 1996). The US Census Bureau reported out of population of 24 million children, 1 out 3 live in a home without a father (US Census Bureau, 2009).
So the student might start feeling the pressure, that there is too much going on in his life and at home, because the parent is putting too much pressure to do better, but the student just can’t stay focused on their studies, and they eventually will develop low grades, he or she might just drop out of school, the parent might want them to work and go to school, that could be difficult for the student. A student needs to be successful in college to succeed, a parent needs to be more supportive, and maybe their child can finish college. Some first generation students will achieve their dream, finish college and pursue their dreams of becoming successful. I think the parents play a big part in their role in life.
The most apparent social and environmental factors are manifested in where children are raised and the style of parenting they are subjected to as explained by the Attachment Theory. Although there are various definitions of attachment, they all communicate its critical role in human development. Emotional well-being is a critical part of psychological development and parents and caregivers should act as stress buffers for their children rather than sources of stress (Immordino-Yang & Damasio, 2011). The direct implication is that parents bear the greatest responsibility in terms of how children develop psychologically and are accountable to a significant extent of their future lives. Hence, this program is informed by the knowledge that an individual’s behavior, emotional intelligence, academic achievements, social relationships and life outcomes are influenced by the relationships they had with their parents. An effective way to ensure that children grow up while developing positively psychologically is to encourage parents and caregivers to be involved as much as possible in their lives from an early stage. While children can also be encouraged to be close to their parents, the parents’ responses to their needs may not always be appropriate or positive. Therefore, it is more beneficial when efforts target
Helicopter parenting is the term used to describe parents who are overly involved in their child’s lives/decisions, to the point it becomes a detriment for the child. Helicopter parenting can facilitate a child’s over dependence on the parenting system (van Ingen, 2015). Severe cases of helicopter parenting stunts a student’s ability to learn and grow independently. Helicopter parents indirectly communicate to their children, that they are unable to handle their own life. This can cause students to be fearful of making choices on their own, without first receive feedback from their parental figure. Helicopter parenting can also have far-reaching and lasting effects on a child’s psyche,
Parents these days seem to over praise their children, seeing that it is their job to building self-esteem. Thus, either influencing a positive or negative impact onto the child. And whatever effect it causes, it defines a child’s self-esteem when he/she is growing up and later
Telling a child they have to be number one in every subject, leads them to believe anything less is unsatisfactory. These children who are disciplined too harshly will become insecure adolescents and anxious adults (Extreme Parenting). Kwan Lee is the father of a student who attends OCT. He says, “The children of ‘Tiger Moms’ are too programmed. They get into a good college, but they don’t know what to do next,” (Yi). Such children lack initiative because their decisions have been made for them by their parents (Extreme Parenting). This leads to feelings of unsureness during the college
In this day and age, the media labels overbearing parents as helicopter parents, and the label itself has taken on a negative light due to the guilt by association. The ‘popular’ definition of helicopter parenting come from the ‘extreme’ cases (Jayson 5). The extreme cases in the news are just that, extreme cases; they do not depict helicopter parenting in general, and have been given the name Blackhawks (“Liftoff for ‘Helicopter’ Parents”). The idea of helicoptering has become a misguided ‘negative portrait’ by media using the term and ‘over parenting synonymously’, but the two terms should be used so. They are very different; over parenting is when a parent does not let the child think for themselves (Aucoin). Over parenting and helicopter parenting are not synonyms, but they are not quite antonyms. Helicoptering can become oppressive parents quite easily. Another side of over parenting is the side that ‘expects… immediate compliance’ to orders without giving reasoning. This style can cause below average ‘self-esteem… self-reliance and… social skills’ (McDevitt and Ormrod). The regular helicopter parenting is more common than what would be assumed as a study shows ‘60 to 70 percent’ of college parents have ‘some helicoptering behavior...
In depth analysis has revealed the structure of people and who they grow up to be. Whether the parenting style is prosperous or poor, it has significant impacts on how one sees the world, how one sees themself and has influence on one's levels of achievement throughout a lifetime. Until the child can recognize their own ability and goals, parenting style is the largest determining factor in the child's success in social and academic circumstances. Children are the final product, or a reflection of culture and a family's values. No matter what events or people cause turmoil in a child's life, the true impact of the negative outside forces lays in the parents hands. If the child is raised correctly, negativity will not take a toll on them as opposed to a child raised in a 'broken home.'
In secure attachment, infants use the caregiver, usually the mother, as a secure base from which to explore the environment. Secure attachment is theorized to be an important foundation for psychological development later in childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. In insecure attachment, infants either avoid the caregiver or show considerable resistance or ambivalence toward the caregiver. Insecure attachment is theorized to be related to difficulties in relationships and problems in later development. Developmentalists have begun to explore the role of secure attachment and related concepts, such as connectedness to parents, in adolescent development. They believe the attachment to parents in adolescence may facilitate the adolescent’s social competence and well-being, as reflected in such characteristics as self- esteem, emotional adjustment, and physical health (Allen & Kuperminc ; Armden & Greenberg; Black & McCartney; Blain, Thompson,
In the modern world of ours today, parents have many ways to bring up their kids. A good example is that parents can search online for better ways to teach their children. With the internet, anything is possible today. However, bad parenting is common around us. To raise a child is a hard job to be done. As children grows, their assumptions and aspirations will be altered. It is not easy to anticipate what will happen next. Due to family problem, National Runaway Switchboard also have statistic about 14.3 percent of the teenagers between the ages of 10 to 18 had the thought of running away from home.The two major problem is that parents are constantly comparing their children with others and not attentive listening to their kids but both can be solved by doing the exact opposite.Paragraph 2:Poor parenting root from parents trying to compare their children with others and not giving attention to their kids. Why is comparing their children considered bad parenting? Radwan (n.d) explained that parents that compare will raise children with jealousy and furthermore diminish their self-est...
It can be said for most parents that they want their children to grow up to be successful contributing members of society. Being a parent is a difficult, yet rewarding task. But why do some types of parenting result in juvenile delinquency while others find success. There are four generally recognized parenting styles and are categorized: authoritarian, permissive, neglectful, and authoritative. This essay will break down the various styles, its type(s) of discipline and effectiveness.
This paper will explore the strict parenting whether it has positive effects or negative effects on children. Before I begin my discussion, I want to ask you a question. How do you define an authoritarian parent? In response to this question, you can think about someone who has a complete control over his or her children. According to Kendra Cherry, the author of “What Is Authoritarian Parenting?”, she explains that, “Authoritarian Parenting is a style characterized by high demands and low responsiveness.” In this sentence, authoritarian parenting, also known as helicopter parenting, is parents who force their children to follow their needs without any explanations, so their children must be under their regulations even though children do not
(Baumrind 1971, 1991 as cited in Kopko) that, “positive parenting is warm but firm.” Youth should be given a certain degree of freedom but need to be encouraged to exercise this freedom within the accepted social norms and limits. The reason for setting such limits is to educate and inculcate a sense of self-discipline and positive values in the child. The more a child learns to control their behavior the better their self-esteem, as they know that they have achieved certain positive values. As a result, they feel more positive about other people as well as themselves known how to interact and conduct themselves appropriately when dealing or interacting with other people. (Heinsler,
... much from their kids and the child feels they can’t achieve to their parents’ expectation, then it causes them to have a negative look at school, academics and left with no motivation to do well.