Fate Essay: Changing Fate

Changing Fate
I have learned how to recognise and set myself free from toxic relationships, circumstances, and thoughts. I have learned how to recognize these things because of my own experiences, and from watching the lives of the ones closest to me, particularly my mother. Most importantly, I have seen that one can change things about their life that they are not satisfied with.
I was born into an extremely religious family. In fact, so religious, that if you did not carry yourself a certain way, or live a what was taught to be “perfect life,” according to The Bible, you would lose certain family’s respect, be criticized behind your back, put down, belittled, or even outcast completely. Now that I am older I see the hypocrisy behind that, because they were not living as they preached, “to walk in love.” My family was toxic, and trying to earn approval from individuals like that was impossible.
My mother, is an incredible woman, she's stayed

Until my stepfather’s occasional beers progressed, to becoming an abusive alcoholic mixed with prescription drugs. My mother suffered the most, and as a child, I couldn't do much but watch. I attempted to pull him off, I beat him while he was choking her, but I was much too small. I was only an eight year old girl, so I was tossed across the room like nothing. Soon that became how I felt, I felt like I was nothing. I was thirteen and already searching for my way out. My life was starting looking like a soon to be replica of my mother’s. The family saying “She’ll be pregnant by 16, like her mother, only unwedded.” I was recognizing signs of abuse in my own relationships, everything they were saying sounded true, but there was a difference between my mother and I. I made sure to always get away before I was stuck. I got angry, I did not want to wind up an abused housewife, or be criticized by family anymore. I decided I was going to prove everyone