Most if the time people believe that their perspective and reason is the correct way to look to view the word, but they forget that certain beliefs can be faulty. Pitfalls such as snap judgments and prejudice are east to do that they become second nature to people and do they do not even realize that they are doing it. I am also guilty of doing all of the seven pitfall multiple times in my life. Sometimes, I do them without even realizing that I am doing them. Just as I have victimized people with the pitfall, I am certain many people have done the same to me. The pitfalls that I victimize people the most with are snap judgement, preoccupation, and one more thing. A pitfall that I make instantaneously is a snap judgment by forming first impressions …show more content…
One time my neighbor asked me to go on a walk with her and I agreed, however I was actually busy studying for a physics quiz. During the walk, she was trying to explain her family problems to me and I kept on saying yeah as if I was listening. I was not listening. Instead, I was trying to figure out the relationship between displacement and velocity in my head. The only thing I could think of was that if I do not pass with quiz, I will not get into a decent college because my term one grade will be awful. I though this quiz was going to decide my entire future and so I kept reviewing in my head. She kept on talking and I had no idea what she had said. It wasn’t until she started talking about how much ager is built up in her and how some people in her family are mentally unstable that I realized I should have paid attention to her. I understand that I was being selfish ad rude by not helping and consoling her. It really hurt her because she needed advice and I completely disregarded everything she said. That time I thought I was just trying to study, but I was actually falling got the pitfall of preoccupation and if I knew that it can hinder relationships because it stops one from being a good listener, I would have never done it. Now, I will try to avoid preoccupation since it important to listen and understand what other people are
The ignorance that plagues the entire world is in need of correction. Even the most educated people in the world exercise similar behaviors. It is nearly impossible, inevitable really, for any person exposed to a group of people toavoid making generalizations based on a few en...
Summary – There are seven logical sins but the main three comes down to bad proof, bad conclusion, and disconnect between proof and conclusion. We all are bound to mistakes, especially during an argument, but it is very important to detect fallacies and understand how to get out of them if we wish to use them because it can damage the persuasion left on the
We definitely notice how quick people are to judge others by their statements and beliefs if they go against our own- but if it’s our own belief, we tend to defend it until the end. In this point, Haidt talks about the confirmation bias, which is the tendency to seek out and interpret new evidence in ways that confirm what you already think. People tend to think “there is evidence that supports my theory, therefore my theory is right.” The main point in topic number three is that people tend to be close-minded when it comes to being wrong. No one likes to be wrong, so we tend to find ways that support how we feel and what we think is right in order to justify out thoughts and feelings. Our intuitions come first, our strategic reasoning comes
“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.”(McGill). The short story The Monkey’s Paw by William Wymark Jacobs has many instances of characters not giving their full attention when somebody was attempting to speak to them. When the sergeant came to the home of the White’s and showed them the monkey’s paw, the White’s did not listen to the sergeants warning of the monkey’s paw of it bringing great consequences whenever they made a wish. Mrs. White did not listen to Mr. White when he tried to explain why they should not wish for their son to be alive. Mrs. White rushed down the stairs ignoring Mr. White’s warnings of opening the door to let their son into the home. Listening more to people other than someone’s self is an ideal that has been lost in society.
The brain is one of the most complex as well as one of the most vital organs of the human body. It's utter perplexity still causes the most astound thinkers to step back and contemplate the way it works. Every second the brain processes four-hundred billion bits of information, while only two-thousand of those bits people become aware of. One can also observe that with so much information to process, there is a plethora of information in the world that can be obtained than what is actually being perceived. Unknowingly, people criticize others and make judgments without even being aware of their perception. Although it is said that one can acquire the skills to make judgments that are unbiased and are constructed of a wide range or base of background knowledge, one simply does not have the time to think about thinking. People instinctively judge others constantly by their mere appearance despite the fact that it is considered immoral. It is so common that one does not even realize when they are doing it. In the grocery store, at work, at school; No matter where one may be, they are making snap judgments. The irony and truth of the matter is that a majority of the time, those subconscious decisions or judgments that one makes and are unbeknownst to them are strangely correct. (Hirshon)
As long as civilized societies have existed, hypocrisy and discrimination have been an unassailable piece of each of them. A punishment for an offense has always been determined by the severity of the action, which inherently depends on the culture of the people. However, the presence of some level of judgement of others has remained inevitable. Many would like to ask the question “Why does this feeling of entitlement to pass judgement exist when everything is subjective to each person’s own morals?” One might ponder that very enigmatic phenomenon. However, this essay will focus on why and how a person should overcome the inevitable mistakes they will make in their lifetime. The word itself seems much too cliche, but as these literary
Before this class my initial stance on the human predicament was the abuse of power by exploiting others to gain more power, but based on our course readings, and my own reflection, I have learned that this is not entirely the case. Now I believe that the basic human predicament is that we are insecure with our being as individuals because of social standards that have taught us it is right to exploit others for our own benefit. To resolve this issue, we need to take time to reflect, ask questions, and trust in God. When we take these steps, God will empower us to gradually learn to exhibit a “self-forgetting love” as Karl Rahner contends, and taking us closer to social justice and confidence with our purpose in life. To support my claim, I will mainly draw on three theologians who share a similar perspective on our predicament.
People these days tend to make assumptions about others based on the criteria such as a person’s clothing or skin. However, people rarely realize that these assumptions can lead to violence and it could end up killing innocent citizens. In another way you can put it is that, prejudice ruins and sometimes even destroys society. It also causes people to lose all understanding for their fellow human. In To Kill a Mockingbird, Atticus Finch says, “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view…until you climb into his skin and walk around in it” (39). People often fail to examine a situation from someone else view because their opinions are biased. In To Kill a Mockingbird, Harper Lee shows readers how prejudice causes people to believe in rumors, judge others by their race, and deem the beliefs of others unacceptable.
4) Assert your own interests and needs in terms of the other person's perspective and story. The other person now listens to you because you first listened to them.
Many times people misunderstand or misinterpret something or someone without knowing the truth. For example when a celebrity is judged for something they did without knowing the cause of it first. Also misunderstandings happen in religion. Now with what is going on with terrorists many innocent people are being treated unfairly. People who are jewish or muslim are fret and judged and discriminated as terrorists.
Another truth we learn about human nature is that people are so quick to judge someone without getting to know them. An example is in high school classes when a student might ask a question that everyone already knows he/she can be labeled as stupid or slow. Maybe the kid wasn't paying attention or maybe they need to be taught in a different way.
A second example is when I see someone using food stamps, and they are of a different race than myself I assume they are just using the Government, and taking advantage of the money earned by hard working individuals. The reason these individuals use food stamps could be they lost their jobs, and have no money to buy food and need help to get through this tough stage in their lives. Also, I tend to repeatedly make prejudice opinions/judgments about certain friends of mine on Facebook. When they post a status about something going on in their lives; I automatically assume they think their lives are more important than anyone else’s and that we want to hear all about it. I need to realize that by using these prejudice opinions/judgments toward others not only affects the person I place my judgments and opinions upon, but those prejudice actions affect myself because people see my wrongful opinions and not my caring personality. I can alter my behavior and enhance my interpersonal interactions by becoming more knowledgeable, motivated, and skilled. I can develop more knowledge about a person by asking questions and establishing
Before we can offer advice, suggest solutions, or effectively interact with another person in any way, we must seek to deeply understand them and their perspective through listening, we don’t seek to deeply understand the problem first. Habit 5 says that we must seek first to understand, then to be understood. In order to seek to understand, we must learn to listen. We can’t simply use one technique to understand someone. If a person senses that were manipulating them, they will question our motives and will no longer feel safe opening up to us.
When a person approaches you with conversation, they should always feel comfort knowing they are being listened to. I believe in this generation, even with myself, I sometimes have trouble giving my full attention in certain situations. These days people are so eager to let someone finish speaking so they can say what they want to say, rather than take in what they are being told and respond to it directly. This is something that I believe everyone, including myself should work on. Also, you should acknowledge what someone is telling you and clarify when you are confused in order to avoid making mindless errors which can lead to assumptions, or if you work in a medical work place even cause misdiagnoses or assessments. An example that many people may notice in their daily conversations of non-therapeutic communication is when one person is always changing topics during the conversation to something they’d rather talk about, or even judging others on their opinions especially before they can explain why they see something a certain way. This is a problem with communicating because it is more focused on one person rather than equal communication between two or more
As The Gift of Listening describes, “Opening one’s heart and listening at a deep level does not come easily and is rarely achieved simply by life experience” (Browning & Waite, 2010, p. 151) There are different aspects to being a good listener that are often difficult to achieve and lead to poor listening. One significant challenge to listening is the attention needed in order to actively listen to another person. Proper listening does not occur due to a passive process but instead it takes deliberate action and thought towards what a person in saying. Like previously stated, actively listening is achieved by sitting in a comfortable and open way and maintaining good eye contact. When a person does not exhibit these techniques good listening often does not occur. The challenge of utilizing different techniques in order to listen to others in a better way often gets blocked by barriers that make active listening unable to occur. In our society today one major barrier to listening is technology. In a casual setting, proper listening often doesn’t occur due to someone being tied to their cell phone. The millennial generation is often guilty of passively listening to others due to the mobile technology that is being used today. Many conversations occur without eye contact or full focus on what the other has to say and instead is spent staring at a