Is Love a Choice or Feeling? The ideas, people, or objects of love may change, but love still remains constant. Some relationships fail from the start, while others take years to deteriorate. But there are some relationships that seem to never fail. The reason being is for choices. Love can be both, a choice and a feeling, depending on how one views it. Some view love as a choice to make the relationship work or choose to walk away from it. While others view it as an emotion that cannot be controlled like in the Greek and European cultures. Loving someone should be a choice because one should love them due to making the choice to stay with them or walk away. To begin, some believe that love is a driving force behind the mindset …show more content…
Love is a conscious commitment, love is something that one chose to work with their significant other everyday who has chosen the same decision. “Love is a decision when you don’t think your spouse deserves your love. Love is a decision to be open to be honest when communicating with your spouse,” (Feuerman). In the Spruce, married couples observed when their situation was bad they chose to open up communication and chose to figure out what was flawed in the relationship. Uniquely, some couples decided to recreate the relationship that was worth falling in love with, while the divorced or broken up couples made the choice to walk away from the relationship and not look back. “After the rosy glow of the new relationship wears off, we have to make the decision: Do we want to love this person and commit to a relationship together, or are we going to let this person go?” (Smith). Smith points out the honeymoon phase of the relationship where it is all new and exciting and there is nothing that could go wrong. But that period of time ends and the couple is left with the decision whether if they care for the person more than a family member or friend to carry the relationship forward. Love is simply the action that one performs.“[...] , love is not a feeling, but an act will, a choice to give oneself even when one does not ‘feel’ like it” (Halstead). The list is only limited by what one would do for …show more content…
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Both author’s illustrate well, that a lack of love can have a profound effect on the behavior of a person. Whether a person has never experienced love by fortune or by design, the initial introduction of love into
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Love is a concept that has puzzled humanity for centuries. This attachment of one human being to another, not seen as intensely in other organisms, is something people just cannot wrap their heads around easily. So, in an effort to understand, people write their thoughts down. Stories of love, theories of love, memories of love; they all help us come closer to better knowing this emotional bond. One writer in particular, Sei Shōnagon, explains two types of lovers in her essay "A Lover’s Departure": the good and the bad.
As any romantic will assert, love is by far the most powerful force known to human hearts and minds. This sentiment is espoused throughout history, almost to the point of cliché. Everyone has heard the optimistic statement, “love conquers all,” and The Beatles are certain, however idyllic it may be, that “all you need is love.” Humanity is convinced that love is unique within human emotion, unequalled in its power to both lift the spirit up in throws of ecstasy, and cast it down in utter despair.
In The New Humanities Reader edited by Richard E. Miller and Kurt Spellmeyer. We read about Barbara Fredrickson the author of the book “Love 2.0” copy right (2013). Barbara Fredrickson is a psychologist who show in her research how our supreme emotion affects everything we Feel, Think, Do and become. Barbara also uses her research from her lab to describe her ideas about love. She defines love not as a romance or stable emotion between friends, partners and families, but as a micro-moment between all people even stranger (108). She went farther in her interpretation of love and how the existence of love can improve a person’s mental and physical health (107). Through reading
Love is arguably the most powerful emotion possessed by mankind; it is the impalpable bond that allows individuals to connect and understand one another. Pure love is directly related to divinity. Without love, happiness and prosperity become unreachable goals. An individual that possesses all the desired superficial objects in the world stands alone without the presence of love. For centuries love has been marveled by all that dare encounter it. Countless books and poems have been transcribed to explain the phenomenon of love, but love surpasses all intellectual explanations and discussions. Love is not a definition, but rather a thought, an idea. This idea, the idea of love, burns inside us all. Instinctually, every soul on Earth is
The Symposium, The Aeneid, and Confessions help demonstrate how the nature of love can be found in several places, whether it is in the mind, the body or the soul. These texts also provide with eye-opening views of love as they adjust our understanding of what love really is. By giving us reformed spectrum of love, one is able to engage in introspective thinking and determine if the things we love are truly worthy of our sentiment.
Love has been the cause of some of the greatest feats, discoveries, and battles in the history of man. It has driven men to insanity and despair, while it has lead others to happiness and bliss. This idea that love has a strong influence on man’s decisions can be seen in the poem, “Love is not all” by Edna St. Vincent Millay. The most prominent theme presented in “Love is not all” is that although love is not a necessity of life, it somehow manages to provoke such great desire and happiness that it becomes important.
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Many people have different perspectives when it comes to the topic of love. The word love has been tossed around by everybody and not very many people really understand the true meaning of love. There are some exceptions, but I think this is especially true for teenagers and young adults. I might be one of those people who do not fully understand the topic of love, but I hope to better understand the topic of love and its true meaning is this course.
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First, we need to know what love is in order to identify it. From a biblical point of view, love is defined as, “love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud (Corinthians 13:4)” It goes on to include that love is not selfish, not disrespectful, it forgives, trusts, hopes, and protects. The Four Loves, written by C.S. Lewis, defines love as a focus on another person and accepting him/her completely for who he/she is. It is the unselfish giving of yourself. Love and other emotions: On the process of feeling, by Jason Brown, defines love as a source of importance and value.
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