Domestic Abuse Effect

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When people think of domestic abuse they often think it only effects the abused victim, but it effects everyone. For most families that have abuse in their household, children become the silent victims since in all their innocence they do not completely comprehend the right and wrong of abuse. Children are born with a clean slate; they only understand what they are taught by those they are closest to. When a child is in a home of abuse and they see or become a part of the physical and emotional violence, they think it’s a normal part of life and can either become abusers themselves or become emotionally impacted in a dangerous and negative way. The question is how can we stop this, what are some of the first lines of defense, and what are some …show more content…

From the day of our birth to the day of our death we have social interactions that help us develop into beings that can either be good, bad, or even both. What we experience as children defines who we become as adults or even if we get the chance to become an adult. On average about 10 and 20 percent of school children in the united states are exposed to domestic violence. Which can lead to aggressive behavior, decreased social competence, and diminished academic performance. (Carrell, S., & Hoekstra, M. 2009). There is also the National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect found 2.8 million reported cases of child maltreatment, which is a rate of 41.9 per 1,000 children. (Chalk, R., & King, P .1998). When you look at these statistics it is often wondered how this effects the other children in contact with an abused child. It is also wondered when a teacher notices the signs of abuse in his or her classroom and what they do about it. Do they address it with the child, report this to the proper authorities, or do they just look the other way and think it’s not their …show more content…

The abuse they suffered is what they know and they end up creating relationships somewhat like those they grew up with. There is a song about how a woman is affected by her parents abuse when she was a little girl and is now afraid to have any type of relationship and is fighting with her inner self. The song is called Family Portrait, performed by Pink. (Moore, A., & Storch, S. 2002). “You fight about money, ‘bout me and my brother, And this I come home to, this is my shelter, It ain’t easy growin’ up in World War III, I don’t want love to destroy me like it did my family.”
As an adult you have to fight against any negative social issues that happened as a child as well as when you come into adult hood. A person will never forget what’s happened to them and can only overcome it on their terms. The past may be in the past but it’s never forgotten. Carrie Underwood’s song, Blown Away, is definitely a good source to listen to about how your mind is trying to fight the abuse but you just cannot blow away the past. (Tompkins, C., & Kear, J 2012). “Those storm clouds gather in her eyes, To wash the sins out of that house, Shatter every window ‘til it’s all blown away, There’s not enough wind in

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