Discipline in children
Nowadays, parents take lightly the task of educating their children. Since the world outside the family consumes so much time, they do not discipline their children as much as they should. The more quality time you spend with your child, the more disciplined he/she will be. Spending quality time with your child will make him/her realize that they are important to you. Sometimes children misbehave on purpose so they can call to your attention.
Some of the most important ways to educate a child are the following: be consistent about rules, model good behavior, reward the good behavior, be clear about rules, neutralize arguments, distinguish punishment from discipline, withholding privileges, and pay attention to the child´s feelings.
Parents need to be consistent and clear about their rules. They should be discussed in a moment when the child is willing to listen and not when he/she already broke it. The rules should not be vague; it is better when the child knows what his/her parents are expecting. So this means that the parents have to be clear and be sure that the child understood their point.
The adults, especially the parents, should be able to be a good model to the children. Normally, children, always repeat what they see and act according to that. Actions speak louder than the voice. This means that you should put in practice all the things that you are telling to the child because this will make more of an impact on them. Parents should be the role models of their child, so they should act in the way that they are expecting their children to act.
Rewarding the good behavior of the child does not mean that you will give him something materialistic like cookies or toys every time they follow an instruc...
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...ld tends to be more spoiled because he/she is able to have more access to material things. The parents should teach their children that not everything is about the money and that they have to work hard to be successful in life. While on the other hand, the children that are raised in a family with a lower economic situation are usually not that spoiled because they do not have the ability to access to a lot of things. Making them appreciate the things they own more and will work hard to be successful in what they want to do.
In conclusion, the job of a parent is to teach their children how to be disciplined. This can take a long time and can be really frustrating, but it is really important. Parents are the ones that shape their child, and all the hard work will be reflected on them. It is important for the child to know how to act in a civilized way around society.
(Miltenberger, 2012) Spanking a child for misbehaving, or grounding a child is an example of a punishment. The reason people do this is because the child begins to associate being punished with the negative behavior. The child will not like the punishment and will want to avoid it in the future, so the child will stop misbehaving in that manner. I would explain to the parents that there are ways that you can punish a child who has misbehaved without the use of excessive punishments.
Raising a child is a challenging life task that is given over to individuals all over the world without an instruction manual. People must learn by experience how to nurture, care for, and provide for miniature versions of themselves for almost two decades in most cultures! Discipline plays a major role in raising a child because most parents truly want what is best for their children and want them to grow up to be responsible, respectable, and successful adults; however, in some unfortunate cases, parents misinterpret the term discipline and in turn end up abusing their children. The question becomes, is there truly a difference between discipline and abuse? And if so, what is it? With education, individuals can learn how to properly distinguish between discipline and abuse and realize that there is a clear black and white difference between the two. The origin of the word discipline stems from the Latin word disciplina, which means “instruction [or] knowledge” (“Definition of discipline”, n.d.). As stated in the Oxford Dictionary, the definition of the word discipline is “the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, [or] using punishment to correct disobedience” (“Definition of discipline”, n.d.). According to WebMD, a website that is visited and seen by millions of people in the United States every day, discipline is “the process of teaching your child what type of behavior is acceptable and what type is not acceptable. In other words, discipline teaches a child to follow rules” (“Child Discipline Methods”, n.d.). It even goes on to state that “it sounds so straightforward, yet every parent becomes frustrated at one time or another with issues surrounding children and discipline” (“Child Discipline Metho...
There is a difference between abuse and discipline and when this line is crossed, children cannot benefit from positively reinforced behavior. Neglect and abuse are not functions of discipline, and should never be used to punish your child. The point of disciplining children is to teach them right from wrong not to make them live in fear of making mistakes. Parents need to understand the fine line between abuse and discipline. Discipline should be positive reinforcement, it should be consistent, and it should be a learning opportunity for the child. Child abuse and neglect will affect the parent-child relationship, it will brutalize the parents, and can affect the child's life forever. It is important to positively reinforce good behavior and discipline to benefit both the children and the parents.
Because the beliefs, education and cultures of people vary so much, along with the age of the child, methods of child discipline vary widely. The topic of child discipline involves a wide range of fields such as parenting, behavioural analysis, developmental psychology, social work and various religious perspectives. Advances in the understanding of parenting have provided a background of theoretical understanding and practical understanding of the effectiveness of parenting methods.
When dealing with children, parents and educators usually have a hard time in understanding kids in order to help them follow guidelines. It is a great achievement to be able to adhere to children and keep them on the right path. When one has to deal with a child it is very difficult to communicate, understand, and listen in order to get a feel of how to guide the child. If all these components are obtained then it can lead to a positive relationship with the child all the way to adulthood. If the parent and educators want to truly create an open communication and stable environment they should utilize the book, How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen so Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. It can guide you to establish communication skills and help better in dealing with children. “The Science of Raising Courageous Kids” by Martin Brokenleg and Steve Van Bockern is proof that validates Faber and Mazlish’s practice.
In many homes parents establish moral assumptions, mandates, priorities. They teach children what to believe in, what not to believe in. They teach children what is permissible or not permissible—and why. They may summon up the Bible, the flag, history, novels, aphorisms, philosophical or political sayings, personal memories— all in an effort to teach children how to behave, what and whom to respect and for which reasons.
There are many approaches to parenting and everyone has their own preferences as to what they think is best. In a fast paced rush around society, it is hard to know what the best choices are for your children. There is a struggle to balance what needs to be done with what can be done, and this has negative and positive feedback on the children. Parents play a critical role in shaping and guiding their children into functional confident adults. An effective parent will learn as they teach in order to grow into understanding with their children.
The saying “lead by example” speaks volumes to many stages of our lives, particularly in raising children; for they do not know better- or worse. Parents influence their kids in many ways, children can inherit their parents character traits, and the ways parents talk and act can further influence their child in how they think and act in later years. “Kids will be kids” and “boys will be boys” can influence their way of thinking as well. Kids will be kids if they pour all the toothpaste in the sink or if they cut their own hair. It’s your child getting into your lipstick and putting it on the dog.
Parents should also be a good role model to their child. Do what I say and not what I do is a common phrase that is often repeated; however it only confuses children. Children will not do what the parent says, since they will do what the parents have modeled. Children model the behaviors that the parent has presented to them time and time
Children are the future of the world and need to be nurtured and educated in the best conditions. Thus, parenting is one of the most challenging and admirable responsibilities that people can experience. Parenting plays important roles in the development of children’s characteristics. Some people nurture children depending on their own ways. Others get advice from friends or books. Parenting can be divided into three groups: authoritative, permissive, and democratic parenting.
The first responsibility that I think is very important is being a good example for your kids. Parents are examples for their kids whether they like it or not. My boys watch and copy everything that I do, and even if I don’t think their listening they are listening. If they see me finishing school and working a good job that’s what they will expect to do themselves because that is all that they know. Children are like sponges. I want to show my kids how to be a good person by being a good person myself. As a parent I want my children to know that they can be anything they want to be, but at the same time I am controlling their physical and moral environment so that they can be good people. I want them to be in an environment where they can develop habits of honesty, generosity, and responsibility.
Another thing that parents do is not correctly discipline their children. What they think is a punishment, is really a reward to the child. For example the child is becoming annoying to the parent; the parent will then give the child either a cellphone or a tablet so that the child will become distracted. By doing this time...
Children sometimes get away from their parents. Meaning, children that do not follow instructions or rules grow up to be disrespectful and have bad attitudes. Parents that do not focus on their children behavior will cause problems for them as an adult. For example, if one is not taught to speak
Parenting carries love, moral values, life skills, knowledge, traditional and so on to their children all the time. Most of the children practice the moral values, knowledge, and tradition which taught by their parents. In this way, most of them follow and believe in their parents’ word. Basically, children world views and mind were deeply shaped by their parents. Most of the children exercise what their parents practice. Children learn to make sense of what is going on around them by interact with their parents and surroundings. Through the “eyes” of their parents, they learn to see, think, question and look for answer which can satisfy them. If children were raised in a good or positive way, there is a very great probability that our society would be better off. Hence, from my point of view, parenting should be a privilege for a better future not only for the children it own but also our society.
An example of a role model of the parents are people who set examples that are imitated. Basically meaning monkey see, monkey do. If a child sees their parent doing good things, they will then do good things. The same principles apply to discipline. Discipline is the practice of training people to obey rules or to punish someone for disobedience.