Direct Parties

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Last Christmas (2017), my mom, my grandma, and my uncle got in an argument about how Christmas should be run this particular year and when everyone should be asked to meet to enjoy the holiday as a family. The thing that made this Christmas different than all of the past years of my life is that my uncle had two new babies, who were born just a month before Christmas. This changed his own family's dynamic dramatically and forced him to think of the needs of two more people in his life.
In past years, we would meet as an entire family for Christmas morning, an event that included getting about twelve of us in the same room at the same agreed-upon time so that everyone could go spend time with the other factions of family they have later in …show more content…

In this conflict, my family has two direct parties in conflict with one another. As the heads of planning big family events and making sure everyone is notified of particular family get-togethers, my mom and grandma are a singular joint direct party. They are both working to solve the conflict that has come up between them and my Uncle James, who is the other direct party in the conflict. My mom and grandma, and my Uncle James are the direct parties in this case because they are the primary decision-makers engaged with one another. Stakeholders. Other people that have an interest in the conflict include my uncle's wife, Mai, their three children, and myself. We are all intrinsically interested in the outcome of this conflict as it has implications for our own relationships with each other party involved. For instance, if relations between my mom and Uncle James come to an end over this conflict, it is possible that relations between myself and Mai or even their kids could come to an end as well. This is most likely a worst-case scenario, but we still have the interest of avoiding it but cannot directly affect its result because of the level of independence that each direct party has in the conflict. Any decision that is made will surely affect any of our relationships with each party, yet we cannot intervene our opinions of the conflict in any meaningful …show more content…

For my Uncle James, his main need was to keep his sanity as he had many late nights waking up to take care of the babies, along with drastic changes in his lifestyle. His main goal in the family is to feel like he has been listened to and thought of as plans are being made. He wants to feel like the family is taking his new life changes and personal situation seriously. Both his needs and his goals influenced his subsequent behavior to withdrawal from the family get-together for Christmas. His feeling as if his needs and goals were not being met in the planning for Christmas plays a big role in the reasoning for his decision to

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