Chapter 12 in Difficult Conversation consisted of a fake conversation where a coach gave advice as needed. I though this was a very interesting way to for us to see how all the skills can be used, however I don’t believe is was very realistic. It seems that most things in this book are just to easy and real life never seems to be like that. I do think actually having a coach or someone inside your head would be very useful in a conversation. What they are trying to get at is for us to learn how to be out own coach. “The Questions People Ask About Difficult Conversation” helps answer many of the same questions I have had while reading the book. As I mentioned before, many things Stone, Patton and Heen suggest just seem too easy and so I think it was good to have a caveat. Question 3 talks about how some people are just difficult to deal with. I personally have experienced this a lot with one of my roommate. I am a very easy person to get along with and have never really had issues making friends or feeling like people don’t like me. For some reason everything I know about myself is not true when I have to talk with her. I do recognize that I could be contributing to the issue, but considering my track record and that I have genuinely tried to be friends with her on multiple occasions, I have determined that’s just how she is and its …show more content…
Stone, Patton, and Heen (2010) started to make me upset when they suggested to “hit pause” (p.275), because I personally know that most people are on their phones all the time, so spending too much time to respond can make me upset and start jumping to conclusions. They did save themselves by saying “let them know if there will be a delay” (p.276). It is very important to bring up how online conversations are different then in person because they are much more prevalent now. Think about how communication has even changed sense 2010, when this book was
Paul Goldberger explores this theme in his essay, “Disconnected Urbanism,” where he explains how cell phones have rendered public spaces, such as urban streets, less public. Likewise, because of cell phones and other electronic devices, humans have grown lazy and impatient. Nonetheless, Goldberger explains, “Remember when people communicated with Europe by letter and it took a couple of weeks to get a reply? Now we’re upset if we have to send a fax because it takes so much longer than e-mail” (558). This demonstrates how Americans have grown accustomed to swift communication, thus leading them to become lazy or comatose; if an individual is attempting to create plans they may prefer to send out a text message rather than a phone call since it is a rapid communication method. However, when conversing with another individual via text message and that individual does not reply immediately, the person may become agitated or anxious. This is a negative result of progress which could affect humans, especially when considering a job; a grand array of individuals may apply for a job and several may be seeking a reply immediately, however, that is highly unlikely. It is with this growing anxiety that countless individuals have become inattentive. Even so, the younger generations of Americans are also dealing with a
Thesis statement: I agree with Turkle. There has been a negative shift in the way we communicate, we document when inappropriate times, Interpersonal communications have suffered and are too obsessive with their devices.
Due to the fact many people use the internet and phones to talk or text, the percentage of face-to-face conversations are decreasing. A decrease in conversations can lead to lack of experience, which in turn leads to more awkward and poor communication. The ability to talk to others in reality is vital, for many important conversations are held face-to-face, like job interviews. If a certain person spends most conversations online, it will lead to poor communication skills in reality when it is necessary.
In Schooltalk: Rethinking What We Say About - and to - Students Every Day, Mica Pollock provides readers with fact-based information to “flip the script” of the misrepresentation of students in the education setting. Pollock demonstrates how race, gender, and ethnic labels can be detrimental to student achievement. She, then, dives in to 600 years of myths regarding social race labels and how they continue to affect humans today. By correcting race, gender, and ethnicity label myths in our minds, we can effectively advocate for these students. To conclude the book, Pollock focuses on how to devise a plan to correct our own misconceptions and foster a supportive environment for diverse students. Throughout
These chapters are trying to teach you that regardless of all the groups of friends out there, don’t feel like you have to be part of any group. For an example in the text it says that “Maddie and Evelyn are at one table and Rosie and her sporty friends are at another table, both groups want Louisa to join their group for breakfast, but she doesn't know what table she should eat at because none of the groups are her type and she doesn’t want to start any drama or arguments with her friends/roommates.” Louisa doesn’t have to feel a part of any of theses groups because she says they are not her type and you don’t have to part of any groups. This example proves that the author did a good job because it’s showing you that it’s okay to be alone sometimes because you don’t always have to be with your friends and groups, also you should wait until there’s a good type for you of groups of friends in life. You should never feel like you have to be part of every single group in life. Another example from the novel that proves the main message is where it says in the text “ Evelyn is very smart, Rosie is sometimes mean, depends what mood she’s in and loves to play sports, Maddie is sometimes negative about little things, and Louisa love's the boarding school ” because everyone has a different personality it’s hard to find the right
“I am not, talking to Sierra because she Facebook messaged me yesterday, and was really rude. She even said that she hated you.” In today’s world conversations like this are happening a lot more frequently, mostly because of the misunderstandings that can arise through text messaging, and emails. These types of disagreements happen because when texting someone you cannot hear their voice, or see their face, and this can lead to misconstruction of a person’s message. In Sherry Turkle’s essay “Connectivity and its Disconnects” Turkle says that technology is changing the way that we interact with each other. She explains that there is a “real” and “virtual world” in which we act in two completely different manners depending on which world we
Many believes that technological inventions has alter the way human communicate with each other. With new innovations like instant messaging, facebook, and whatsapp the idea of having face to face conversation is considered ancient. In “No Need to Call” the author Sherry Turkle argues that phone calls have decreased due to the luxury the comes with instant messaging, such as texting and email. Turkle claims that voting for online communication may negatively affect the way in which people will hand face to face interaction. Meanwhile, Jenna Wortham the author of “I Had a Nice Time With You Tonight” disagrees by claiming that, despite the vast number of social media and dating sites that exist today, virtual communication can actually strengthen
Stone, D., Patton, B., & Heen, S. (1999). Difficult conversations: How to discuss what matters most. New York, NY: Viking Press.
In the first chapter of her book, You Just Don't Understand, Men and Women in Conversation, Deborah Tannen quotes, "...studies have shown that married couples that live together spend less than half an hour a week talking to each other...". (24) This book is a wonderful tool for couples to use for help in understanding each other. The two things it stresses most is to listen, and to make yourself heard. This book opened my eyes to the relationship I am in now, with a wonderful person, for about four years. It made me realize that most of our little squabble-like fights could have been avoided, if one or the other of us could sit down and shut up for a minute to listen. Most of our fights had erupted from a misunderstanding or miscommunication on either of our parts, and we're only dating! I can only imagine the conflict two partners would have in a marriage with children. This book outlined a lot of couples' problems, where they may have started, and how to circumvent them. After starting to read this book, I realized to do a book report on the entire book would be very difficult, so I chose situations that most related to me to report on.
In a world that has been overtaken by technological innovations, it is no surprise that the conventional way of communicating has suddenly become outdated and rejected. With the speed of light, a lot can easily get done; many people across the globe now conveniently interact with one another through instant messaging, text messaging, email, and other faster means of communication. Nonetheless, there are people who still reckon with the hoary method of communicating. In her essay “In Praise of a Snail’s Pace”, Ellen Goodman, the author, depicts a picture of a system that has derailed from the old and decent way of doing things into a “world of hyperactive technology” (52). This transition has captivated the majority of people into neglecting the slow but graceful way of living in general. Goodman explains the negative impact which technology, especially the internet, is having on communications, families, businesses, relationships, and the society at large. She calls it “continual partial attention” (52). The author’s rhetorical is not about doing things at the pace of a snail; rather it is about doing certain things at the right pace while paying proper attention to detail. The author convincingly
Sending letters was the only way to communicate a long time ago but all that has changed and improved for the better. Individuals can now send emails and text messages to one another without having to wait a couple of days for a response, however, not everyone would agree with this new found way of communication. In sollen kevin’s article “ sending, getting real
From the start of the human history, information traveled as fast as a ship could sail, or a horse could run, or a person could walk. It gradually began to change. At the invention of telegraph, information could be sent quicker. So communication was anticipated, it was more of a waiting period to reach to the second person. Then the second person received the letter or telegraph, sent the answer back, which was very time-consuming. Nevertheless, communication between people face-to-face was fundamental. It was as necessary as breathing, therefore back in the days, there were a lot of gatherings, and it was characterized by simplicity, friendliness, and socialness. But the technology completely changed the daily lives of ordinary people. Now days, people are more immediate.
This Self-Assessment opened my eyes on a whole new level. I never knew that I could really apply some of these questions in my everyday life and I especially didn’t know that I could apply some of the terminology in the book to the position that I plan to have in the near future. Who would of that? One thing that would help me build credibility in my relationships with others is that I can now see the pros and cons of any scenario that may be thrown my way as I encounter new relationships along the way.
In today’s society, Technology is the main player in the way we communicate. Cell phones and social media made the communication easier for people to contact each other. It extends time less to connect between long distance friends. Also, it helps people to spread and enlarge circle of friendships around the world. However, people are losing the way of face-to-face conversation. Sherry Turkle is an expert on culture and therapy, mobile technology, social networking, and sociable robotics argued in her article “the flight from conversation” how using technology can affect our behavior in conversation.
“We barely have time to pause and reflect these days on how far communicating through technology has progressed. Without even taking a deep breath, we’ve transitioned from email to chat to blogs to social networks and more recently to twitter” (Alan 2007). Communicating with technology has changed in many different ways. We usually “get in touch” with people through technology rather than speaking with them face to face. The most popular way people discuss things, with another individual, is through our phones. Phones have been around way before I was born in 1996, but throughout the years, they have developed a phone called a “smart phone”. The smart phone has all kinds of new things that we can use to socialize with our peers. On these new phones, we can connect with our friends or family on social networking sites such as Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Technology has also developed Skype, a place you can talk with people on the computer with instant voice and video for hours. The new communication changes have changed drastically from the new advances made in technology through our smart phones, social networking sites, and Skype.