There is so many different things that being a parent involves, most people can see when parents are selfish or unselfish. It is a very crucial aspect of parenting. Selfish parents do not put their children first or what their children needs. They do not care as much about their children as they do about themselves. Unselfish parents, on the other hand, put themselves on the back burner. Which means that everyone else’s well-being and feelings come first. The children mean more than they do. It is important to know if someone has the right mind set when it comes to parenting. Knowing the difference between a selfish and unselfish parent is essential in life.
Selfish parents are not uncommon; you can see them in action quite a bit. I personally
My mother is one of those unselfish parents and she made me the mother I am today. She gave up all of her time and energy for my brother and I while growing up. She was a single mother that worked full time to support us and make sure we had all we needed. Though she was busy as ever supporting my brother and I, every time we had an event that was something big to us, she would do all she could to show up and support us for them. During high school my brother and I were in sports and other things that were important to us, we had very busy schedules. My mother was always there for us even if she just worked 60 plus hours the week before. One time in high school I was doing the event called solo and ensemble with my solo on the flute. She had been scheduled to work so I was so nervous and scared because I was going to be alone with no one to be there for me. She ended up showing up anyways after making sure her work would let her have an extended lunch to be there for
When I was 15 my mother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, and it hit me hard after losing my grandmother to cancer. When she sat down and told my brother and I what was going on I didn’t know how I was supposed to react. She made sure that we were comforted even if she did not know everything was going to be okay. During the couple of months of doctors’ appointments and then the surgery and down time she never stopped being a mother. Even though we tried our best to make sure she did not overdo herself it was not easy trying to get her to stop trying to take care of us instead. Even though we were not super young anymore she still felt she needed to be there for us. If that isn’t selflessness, then I am not sure what
Beyond genetics, parents have an extremely significant impact on the emotional, moral, and social development of their children. This is understandable, as many children interact solely with their parents until they reach school-age. Parents have the ability to determine a child’s temperament, their social abilities, how well-behaved or in control of their emotions they are, how mature and ambitious the child will be, and so forth. (Sharpe) Furthermore, parents have both ideals for their children as well as ideals for themselves, and how they raise their children is deeply influenced by this.
Parenthood is the hardest job anyone could ever have and it demands the constant attention of two loving parents, but what happens when one parent is left with the care and responsibility of a child. Well my mother had the burden of raising two kids, holding down a full-time job, and attending school. With her busy schedule it was hard on me because I was on my own almost of the time that I needed help whether it was to feed myself or if I needed help with homework. My mother knew I was having a hard time acclimating to our new situations so she took it upon herself to teach me to become as self sufficient as a 9 year old boy could be. I first saw this as a disadvantage, but quickly learned that it had become a blessing in disguise. Under the
During a child’s development, he goes through different stages in life, so parents create their own parenting styles from a combination of factors which evolve over time. For instance, during the stage of infancy,
...en it comes to their own parenting skills. However, parents want their children to be successful in their adult life and in the future workforce.
Today more than ever one can hear people boast about the importance of developing the future generations adequately. Parents typically have the child’s best interest at heart, however humans are made imperfect and mistakes towards child development are inevitable. My parents based most of their parenting, like most parents on the way they were raised. They would choose what they felt appropriate and what would be harmful to a child. Although, this may sound like a purifying system one cannot disregard the fact that this choosing on what is good and bad is mainly opinionated. Huge misconceptions typically lie on the authoritarian and permissive roles as
Growing up in a single parent household was a struggle. My mother worked very long and hard so that I could get what I wanted and needed as a child. To this very day she works just hard, if not more. My mother had me at the age of sixteen, although she was just a child herself, she has raised me well. It was hard for her to manage everything but she found a way. When I was eight years old my mom had to take in my older cousin, Longris, due to the passing of his mother. It got harder on my mom because now she had an extra person to provide for. Through these hard times another cousin of mine, had to move in with us due to his mother’s passing. From this point it got even harder to manage bills and taking care of a household. Despite all of our challenges we found a way to make it. This taught me
Throughout my life my mom has always been selfless and generous- especially when it came to her children and grandchildren… ever putting her self last! SHE WAS MY EVERYTHING… Unlike my sister, I was the one that gave my parents their grey hair… It took me longer than most to mature, and the truth is- that’s putting it mildly. Yet through all the ups and downs, and all the times I would end up disappointing her expectations of me, one thing NEVER
First of all she shows that she is selfless by going to most all of my sporting events. For instance, she went to my championship swim meet when her eye was swollen. Woowoo had an eye surgery right before the swim meet and a huge bandage protected her eye, but she tried to watch me swim in the meet. In addition to going to sports games, Woowoo shows selflessness by giving you books, food, clothes, or jewelry when you need or want it. For example, one weekend my family and I were eating popcorn and talking around the kitchen table at my grandmother’s house. My mom told my grandmother that the book she was reading looked like a great book. Once my mom said this Woowoo immediately gave her the book even though she had not finished. Woowoo being selfless has taught me to be kind to anyone I meet, and to put others before me even when I do not want
In conclusion, parents who hover over their children and do not give them space to breathe and lead more independent lives harm their kids while thinking that they are helping them. These parents might, in the real sense, be creating new long lasting problems for their kids, which could potentially be transferred to their grandchildren. Children need to learn to interact and engage in college and beyond while parents should stop hovering and give their children some space to experience life. In fact, it is said that love and independence are what every child needs to succeed in life, too much or too little of either and no child prospers. Therefore, parents should stop hovering in their children affairs and allow them to learn through experience.
People say, “No one is born knowing how to be a parent, but it’s a process that everyone has to go through in life as they grow older and have children.” We have to do it from the style of parents that we choose who to be, not what someone else picks for us or shows us how to do.
Even before my first tear hits the ground, my mother is there to wipe it away. My mother feels my pain before I can even realize it. She understands my needs before I can even think of them. That’s why we call her a mother. My mother has been an extraordinary influence on my life and always will be. She’s the kind of mom who would always take time out and care for her four children and the mom who would never let her hardships in her life distress her kids. My mother has always been a very strong role model to me, and growing up with someone like her to look up to has changed my life in many ways. She has helped me grow physically, intellectually, and considerately. She taught me to always love, care, and give back to the people I am grateful for.
There are many different things that I take into consideration when it comes to parenting. Parents have many different responsibilities but there are three in particular that I think are very important. Being a good role model is important, as well as listening to your children and disciplining them appropriately. If you want to be a good parent you have to put your kids first.
My mother was taking care of me, and my three other siblings all alone by herself. When my father was living my mother only had one job, but now she had to work more. She had a massive impact on our lives by making sure we had everything we needed. Because I was the oldest of my siblings, I felt like I was a parent. At just eight years old, I had to skip school just to make sure my siblings had someone to look after them while my mother worked. I was obligated to feed them, give them baths, and put clothes on them. It was very difficult, but I knew my mother had to pay bills, and take care of us and herself, so I knew she couldn’t afford a babysitter. When times got very tough, my mom would get stressed out and take it out on us by throwing tantrums, hollering at us and beating on us. I didn’t have a choice but to encourage my mother, and be the one to push her to not give
The sacrifices made by my mother are ones that I think about often. My mother married my father at age eighteen the summer she graduated high school. Having dreamed of being a doctor for her entire life, she enrolled in her local university with the intention to fulfill that dream. Two years later I was born and she continued to push to towards her goal, making incredible grades all while caring for a baby and husband. However, she decided when I was two that she would drop out of college to take care of me and eventually homeschool. The story doesn't just end there. Several years later she went back to school and earned a degree in Nutrition Science with a seven year old (me), a two year old, and one more on the way. She wrote her final essay in the delivery room of my youngest sister and graduated with a 4.0 GPA, in the top 5% of the country. All of the sacrifices she made and doors she closed led to new goals and opened doors she didn't know existed. Not every parent should drop out of school or make some other major sacrifice, but parent’s must often choose between social events, some designer handbag, or a much needed vacation and the needs of their child. The small sacrifices made by parents every day make a huge impact on the lives of their children. My mother is an example of positive parental sacrifice. Her sacrifices and successes
My mother is a loving and caring woman because she helped every person in need that she came across, even if it was an inconvenience to her. Such inconveniences would consist of giving anything to others when she had very little to give, giving someone a ride that she didn’t know, helping others when she did not have time, and much more. As an example, once I accompanied her to church and I witnessed her give one thousand dollars to the church as an offering when she didn’t have much money. We had to skip our morning coffee for a while to make up for the money that was spent that