Dear Dads Save Your Sons Analysis

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The article "Dear Dads: Save Your Sons" by Christopher Bacorn, published in Newsweek on December 6, 1992. To try and sum up this article, it begins by telling a sad story about a mother bringing her out of control son to Christopher Bacorn after charges had been filed and counseling was recommended. The father had left the family four years before. Since that time the son had become uncontrollable. Mr. Bacorn listened to the mother's story and discovered that there are no men in her life. He believes that what is most necessary is a relationship between a man and the young boy and that a boy doesn’t need a mentor in his life he only needs a more experienced friend which should be in this case his father .He reflects that in today’s world …show more content…

I can see that there are many young men walking around in gangs with their pants hung low and they seem to have little to do except get in fights and hang out. I did not really relate the issue of an absent father with these young men, but while reading this it seems to make sense. What is worse than an absent father is absent parents that spend almost all of their time working and rely on schools’ and housekeepers to help raise their children. Children need their parents and without both parents helping to model good behavior as well as to hold the child accountable to being good it is scary to think what will happen to this parentless generation. No matter how much we try and change this issue and no matter how much awareness can be spread the only way to fix this crises is within the parents’ hands and they are the one’s responsible in fixing what they had messed up. I feel sorry for parentless children having to live without the love, tenderness and monitoring of parents but the people I feel more sorry for are parents themselves that are not going to have someone to take care of them in their elder years because they have not raised proper children that know what and how to act . Parent should be aware on how much they affect their children and how much their presence is important in their children’s lives. If they do not reflect on how important they are in the lives of their

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