Every parent has different methods in raising a child. The way a child is raised has a tremendous influence on his or her whole life. Some parents believe in having a more lenient and friendly relationship while others believe in being more severe and oppressive. As shown in Dead Poet’s Society, overbearing parenting results in open defiance and can have deleterious results. In Dead Poet’s Society, the character Neil Perry’s father’s austere, uncommunicative and dictatorial relationship with Neil led to Neil’s demise.
Strict parenting is beneficial; it can discipline and regulate a child, so he or she does not get out of control and can teach respect. In Dead Poets Society, Neil's father's strict discipline is the reason for Neil's achievements and control in school. Being held to a high standard, Neil always did well in school and was able to manage himself without parental guidance. Because of his dad's parenting, Neil is able to discipline himself. Being able to work hard and having self control gives him initiative, which could be an advantage for the rest of his life. Strict discipline is acceptable until it crosses over to overwhelmingly rigorous. Neil’s father is immensely harsh when raising Neil, which cause unfortunate repercussions. Mr. Perry controls Neil and commands him to do as he is told when raising Neil instead of letting Neil have any input. “Out of fear, he obeyed his father’s commands without questioning and he never said what he wanted to say. He learned to keep everything bottled inside and listen to whatever orders or plans his father had given him. This led to his suicide.” (Harmon & Stimpson, “Physiological Issues in Dead Poet’s Society”. Neil's father wishes for him to be a doctor, so he will not ...
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The character Neil’s father dreadful, excessive parenting led to Neil’s death. Although strict parenting is beneficial, overdoing it has dire consequences. In this case it leads to the death of Neil Perry. Parents not communicating with their child results in a bad connection between the parent and the child with a higher chance of blatant disobedience. How Neil’s father treats him when throughout his life causes his disobedience and later demise.
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