Flawed Conceptualizations of Women in Literature When it comes to romantic relationships, people often view the other person through a distorted lens, especially, or so it seems, women. Some idealize the woman, seeing her only how they want her to be not how she actually is, while others are blinded by their snap judgements and the expectations they hold. Zadie Smith’s “The Girl with Bangs”, Tim O’Brien’s “The Things They Carried”, and Neil Gaiman’s “How to Talk to Girls at Parties”, are all short stories that, in some way, deal with the flawed concepts people have regarding women and relationships. Each of these three stories uniquely addresses this theme, using different tones, writing styles, and literary genres. Nevertheless, all three …show more content…
The speaker acknowledges that despite Charlotte’s many flaws, her looks alone, specifically her bangs, overshadowed any reservations she may have had about her. Because of Charlotte’s looks, the narrator ignores her faults. She believes that she has somehow saved Charlotte and perceives her as this wonderful prize that has fallen into her arms (189). However, the story then culminates in an anticipated change in perspective, as the narrator recounts the event that led her to realize Charlotte was using her and unworthy of her affection. At the end of the story, an old boyfriend of Charlotte’s returns to town, determined to merry her, it is at this point in the story that the protagonist’s perspective shifts to match that of her older self, who is narrating the story (192). She realizes how her inaccurate perception of Charlotte allowed her to manipulate her, and becomes more self-aware and disenchanted by Charlotte, which allows her to look back on her relationship with a clearer perspective, unhindered by the allure of the girl’s soft black …show more content…
In the first two sentences of the story it is stated that “First Lieutenant Jimmy Cross carried letters from a girl named Martha [. . .] They were not love letters, but Lieutenant Cross was hoping” (O’Brien 311). Unlike in “The Girl with Bangs”, Lieutenant Cross’s awareness of his inaccurate perception of Martha in “The Things They Carried” is not due to hindsight, but rather because his flawed conceptualization of Martha is self-contrived. It is stated multiple times throughout the story that Lieutenant Cross knew that Martha did not love him, but he would fantasize and pretend that she did anyway. On several occasions, it is stated that Lieutenant Cross liked to think of Martha as a virgin, this suggests that, in some ways, he was more in love with the idea of Martha and the escape she offered him from the burdens of war, than he was actually in love with her. He created this fantasy image in his mind of what he wanted her to be like, and despite knowing that this fantasy could never be real he fell in love with it and obsessed over it, and the artificial image of Martha that he created consumes him and affects his ability to focus on the
One of the first women introduced to the reader is Martha. Martha is Lt. Jimmy Cross's love interest, even though she has only ever considered him as a friend and nothing more. O'Brien's uses the story of him and his misguidedness to show how the soldiers were completely separated from the war. After the war is over, the soldiers returned home attempting to get back to their normal lives. But as was shown with Cross and Martha, it didn’t turn out that way. Trying to cope with all the death that he found in Vietnam, Cross does not believe that Martha isn't a virgin and believes that they still could have a life together. This was meant to be a comfort and safety mechanism when he was possibly faced with rejection and death all around him. It got to the point that it was all he thought about up to Ted lavenders death. Trying to rid himself of the guilt he “burned Martha’s letters. The he burned the two photographs… He realized it was only a gesture… you couldn’t burn away the blame” (O’Brien 23) This shows that he knew that his obsessions with Martha is what lead to the death of ted Lavender, and even when he reali...
...s, and why he writes them at all. Instead of judging him, she tries to understand and fix it her own way, and it affects how he sees his writing:
In “Girl,” Jamaica Kincaid’s use of repetitive syntax and intense diction help to underscore the harsh confines within which women are expected to exist. The entire essay is told from the point of view of a mother lecturing her daughter about how to be a proper lady. The speaker shifts seamlessly between domestic chores—”This is how you sweep a house”—and larger lessons: “This is how you smile to someone you don’t like too much; this is how you smile to someone you don’t like at all…” (Kincaid 1). The way in which the speaker bombards the girl overwhelms the reader, too. Every aspect of her life is managed, to the point where all of the lessons she receives throughout her girlhood blur together as one run-on sentence.
To begin with, both Lieutenant Cross and the boy in “Araby” showed a level of immaturity by acting the way they did towards the girls they loved. In “The Things They Carried” Cross touched Martha’s left knee while they were at a movie. He constantly thought about that moment and was completely obsessed. His obsession is evident in they story when it states “Right then, he thought, he should’ve done something brave. He should’ve carried her up the stairs to her room and tied her to the bed and touched that left knee all night long” (O’Brien 936). Misinterpreting such a simple gesture and turning it into a sexual fantasy shows immaturity. In “Araby” the boy also made more of a situation than it actually was in reality. When he finally talked to the girl he was obsessed with, he took the conversation the wrong way. She expressed to him that she was not able to attend the bazaar because she had to go to a retreat. He responded “If I go, I ...
Jimmy believes that he truly loves Martha. Although the love from Martha does not seem to be reciprocated. Jimmy says of these letters, “They were not love letters, but Lieutenant Cross was hoping… after as day’s march he would dig his fox hole, wash his hands under a canteen, unwrap the letters, hold them with his fingers and spend the last hours of light pretending” (O’Brien 2640). The way that Jimmy pretended night after night that Martha truly loved him shows Jimmy’s innocence in the way of love. He knows logically that Martha does not really love him but the innocence inside him can not help but want her love. He also says of the letters, “ They were signed Love, Martha, but Lieutenant Cross understood that Love was only a way of signing and mean what he sometimes pretended it meant” (O’Brien 2640). This is a continuation of Lieutenant Cross’s pretending. The way the Cross continually pretends that Martha loves him is a way of protecting himself from the truth, to protect his
Moreover, the narrator manifests signs of transgression as she comes to identify with Rebecca and comes to terms with her adult sexuality. For most of the narrative, the narrator displays a plain shy, innocent, docile character. However, Blackford points at the erotic nature of the narrator’s post as a female companion to Mrs. Van Hopper (234). The same post is suggested again by the narrator with Maxim “I’ll be your friend and your companion, a sort of boy” (du Maurier 269). Horner and Zlosnik emphasize this prospect through declaring that the narrator’s identity is more complex than it might appear and more importantly that in writing her tale she hints at the “most mysterious secret of all: the nature of female identity” (Daphne du
At the beginning of the story, Charlotte is in a relationship with a man named Maurice, who she promises she would wait for as he left for Thailand to pursue his career. As soon as Maurice leaves, the narrator slowly goes after Charlotte. The narrator is tactical; she uses the fact that she is a girl to her advantage. The narrator slowly befriends Charlotte’s friends and then Charlotte. In the story it states “I became a boy for the duration. I stood under the window with my open arms. I did all the old boy tricks. These tricks are not as difficult as some boys will have you believe, but they are indeed slow, and work only by a very gradual process of accumulation.” (Zadie Smith 264) The narrator took on a male role by using their pattern of seduction to win over Charlotte. The relationship between the narrator and Charlotte lasted for eight months and in the beginning the narrator referenced the relationship as an affair, later on she went to say the relationship tore her apart. The narrator must have felt as if she did not belong in that relationship since ultimately Charlotte belonged to Maurice. Before the end of the relationship, Maurice comes back for Charlotte and finds out of the relationship between his girl and the
Among the characters is Wilbur and Charlotte. Wilbur had Character vs. Self conflict concerning friendship as she thinks of Charlotte, “I’ve got a new friend, all right! But what a gamble friendship is! Charlotte is fierce, brutal, scheming, and bloodthirsty-everything I don’t like. How can I learn to like her, even though she is beautiful and, of course, smart?” Such thoughts of Wilbur indicate that he had fears and doubt on whether to accept Charlotte as her friend (White 41). But Wilbur is helpless and needs friend to rely to save his life so to solve his problem, he tries to be like Charlotte so as to solve his conflict. Such an attempt is comprehensible to readers that Wilbur imitates Charlotte’s spinning of a web, so as to relate to a friend’s ability. Such mimicking is supposed to alleviate the lack of confidence friendship. As their story continue, Wilbur discover that his impression with Charlotte is wrong. Underneath Charlotte’s cruel exterior, she has kind heart and a loyal and true friend to the very
This paper argued that the mother in Jamaica Kincaid’s short story “Girl” is loving towards her daughter because the mother is taking time to teaching her daughter how to be a woman, and because she wants to protect her in the future from society’s judgment. Kincaid showed that the mother cared and loved her daughter. The mother wants her daughter to know how to run a home and how to keep her life in order to societies standards. Alongside practical advice, the mother instructs her daughter on how to live a fulfilling
Lieutenant Cross is a character who, until the death of a soldier, has been very loose and not taken the war seriously. He had let his soldiers throw away their supplies, take drugs, and sing happy songs in the middle of the serious war. He was only concerned with Martha; he dreamt about being with her, and he was delighted when he received letters from her. Tim O’Brien says, “Slowly, a bit distracted, he would get up and move among his men, checking the perimeter, then at full dark he would return to his hole and watch the night and wonder if Martha was a virgin.” (p. 2) This shows how all he cared about was Martha; he was not paying attention to his real life and his surroundings. He was basically living in a world of fantasy because they lived in two separate worlds. Being unable to wake up from this dream made him potentially weak because his mind was always wandering elsewhere, never in the current situation. This made him an easy target for his enemies because if this had gone on, then he would start to fear death, fear fighting, and fear the war. He would become a coward because he would wish for the day when he could be with Martha again after the war. This would greatly weaken him and his army both, and they would most likely lose to the enemy.
The woman that Cross is in love with is named Martha. She's barely a junior from Mount Sebastian College in New Jersey. Although he is madly in love with her, Martha doesn't return the feelings back for him. This one-sided love causes him to ponder and lose focus of what is really important, keeping himself and his troops alive and well. As he is lying in his foxhole, he looks at pictures of Martha; he can't help to feel, "More than anything, he wanted Martha to love him as he loved her " As shown, he just wants to be with her and to share a love with her. Over and over again, he would think about her; sometimes in foxholes, sometimes while marching, even at times of danger. This lack of focus on the real dilemma, their situation in the war, will be a costly one.
How would one feel if ones significant other was constantly disobeying the relationship? In Irwin Shaw’s “The Girls in Their Summer Dresses”, he shows how important having a trustworthy and honest relationship is. This short story highlights the flaws in romantic relationships by demonstrating how one needs some type of relationship in life, how fragile a relationship can be, and how many take loved ones for granted.
In the first paragraph of the story, Jimmy Cross' rank is noted (First Lieutenant) along with the fact that he "carried letters from a girl named Martha, a junior at Mount Sebastian College in New Jersey" (434). From the outset, the reader sees that Martha plays a pivotal role in his thoughts and actions. The fact that Jimmy Cross "would imagine romantic camping trips into the White Mountains in New Hampshire" after he marched the entire day and dug a foxhole indicates that he thinks often of Martha (434). While these thoughts of a lover back home provide some form of escape for Lt. Cross, they also burden him with the obsessive feelings of unrequited love. ...
Lieutenant Jimmy Cross carried letters from the woman he loved who was still back at home. “They were not love letters, but Lieutenant Cross was hoping, so he kept them folded in plastic at the bottom of his rucksack.” These letters Cross carried along with him give in an insight into his past, his present, and his character. Martha, his love, was a long distance from him, but he refused to let his memories of her be erased. It didn’t matter to Cross whether or not the love he had for Martha was mutual, but he would still “spend the last hour of light pretending.” Not only would they remind him of his past, these pictures would also give Cross something to at least hope for and have faith in. It didn’t matter that he would “pretend” that Martha loved him as much as he loved her; the photographs and letters of her that he carried were “suitable” to his personality. These things may have been meaningless to other men, but to Cross they were a sign of hope, his past, and gave him some...
Relationships are complex things, with ever-changing dynamics. Some traditional roles are always played in the constant search for balance between giving and taking in relationships. Women have historically and stereotypically played the role of "giver" in male-female romantic unions. In recent years the gender laws of relationships have been changing and evolving, but even as recently as the 1970s and 1980s women have been restricted to the role of complacent giver in their relationships. Their freedom of thought and even private speech have been impossible to repress, however, and through broadening that communication, things have been forced into change. A perfect example of this form of communication as an attempt to change the role-playing games of relationships is Margaret Atwood's 1974 poem, "Tricks With Mirrors." Through the use of poetic devices such as metaphor and tone in "Tricks with Mirrors," Atwood attempts to explain and break free from the restrictions of these traditional dynamics in relationships.