Communicate Honestly

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In the African American community, the differences between the black male-female relationships have been socially defined and distorted as occurring due to a lack of communication and honesty. In fact, males and females have the same pivotal need to be understood by others and that’s through communicating honestly. One characteristic that can significantly influence the way we communicate is our gender differences. Women want intimacy in the conversation, and feel a connection and have a sense that her partner is listening and understands the meaning of the conversation. On the other hand, men want to give information while remaining in control and independent and not having to debate and deliberate on the conversation. Moreover, men communicate with a goal of accomplishing social status and avoiding failure, while women focus on accomplishing a personal connection and avoiding social isolation. Women want rapport a close and harmonious relationship in which each person understand each other's feelings or ideas, and communicate well, while men just want to report and give his account of the situation. In order to completely understand the black male-female relationship issues that’s has been occurring for centuries and is still present in today’s society, one must learn how to communicate and express their feelings honestly and openly and be willing to listen and work on a solution together.
The challenges and conflict in a black male-female relationship that occurred centuries ago still occur today. Like almost every relationship that exist, the female use more words to make a point and convey her emotions more and the male uses less words and convey less emotions. Females use conversation to think through a problem and work towa...

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...ime and stood her ground, she would have never been played for the victim a second time.
In conclusion, communication and honesty are the main challenge and conflict in the black male-female relationship. The male-female relationship will never last and sustain all the trials and tribulations of life unless the male and female learn and acknowledge that communication and honesty is the key to a long, healthy and happy relationship. In fact, as a couple you can only grow together and understand one that communicates is a two way street and is vital to resolve conflict dependently. Therefore, in order to completely understand the black male-female relationship problems that has been occurring for centuries and is still present day, one must learn how to communicate and express their feelings honestly and openly and be willing to listen and work on a solution together.

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