Children From A Divorced Home

If a child’s parents are divorced then the child’s life will be ruined, and they’ll never succeed with so many issues plaguing their life. This is the typical stipulation that is portrayed when a person looks up the effects of divorce for children involved. Many do not realize is that this is not always true, and that some cases actually prove that a child from a divorced home is affected positively. Even though it can prove difficult, there are times where the divorce can prove to be helpful in many ways towards the child; such as learning how to be secure with changes in life, inspiring enduring marriages, bringing children closer to their parents, learning how to cope and adjust to situations, and giving them a reason to beat the statistics

These problems do not begin to show until later teenage years with their dating relationships that might become harder to sustain (Arkowitz). Some factors of this are true like the possible trust issues that come up if trouble begins in a relationship, but it does not apply to every case/instance. In fact it has been shown that some people from a divorced home feel extremely determined to be the opposite of their parents. Such as the cases that were presented in the CNN article “Children of Divorce Vow to Break Cycle, Create Enduring Marriages,” each of these couples all had at least one partner who was from a divorced home so should have statistically not lasted very well, but instead of falling into the same trouble their parents had, did just the opposite (Chen). Carl Pickhardt states, “The adolescent world is a more independent one, more separated and distant from parents, more self-sufficient, where friends have become favored companions, and where the major focus of one's social life now extends outside of family into a larger world of life

The factors that can externally affect whether or not a child succeeds rely on the typical situation before and after the divorce, how the divorce began, financial problems, remarriages, and parental conflict (Hopf). These are the ones that are most observed by outside sources, and most recognized by the child and parents involved. The child themselves are a factor on their own on how they will be affected, and whether or not they can overcome the problems they may be faced with. If the child has more of an easygoing attitude, and is good at coping with little changes they are more likely to prosper after the divorce