Catcher In The Rye Intimacy Analysis

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In The Catcher In The Rye by J.D. Salinger, Holden is constantly having internal conflicts dealing with intimacy. Holden constantly battles with himself over wanting intimacy and not wanting intimacy. Holden longs for intimacy with other people while simultaneously rejecting such intimacy, a self-destructive paradox that leads to his great suffering. Holden reaches out to Mr. Spencer for empathy, but when they start talking Holden regrets his decision and refuses to open up about how he feels. Holden initially goes to his teacher's house to say a final goodbye. Holden points out that "He'd written me this note asking me to stop by and say good-bye before vacation started, on account of I wasn't coming back. I'd have come over to say good-bye …show more content…

Throughout the book Holden has these recurring thoughts about sex which is a typical trait for a sixteen year old boy. Holden had just walked back from Ernie's when Maurice, the elevator man, asks Holden if he is “Interested in a little tail t’night”(91). Holden unwittingly says yes to Maurie’s proposition: “It was against my principles and all, but I was feeling so depressed I didn’t even think”(91). Holden then returns to his room to prepare himself for the girl the Maurice was sending. Holden admits that “I was starting to feel pretty sexy and all, but I was a little nervous anyway”(92). When Sunny arrives she seems very keen to get the intercourse done and over with fast. Holden is affronted by the fact that Sunny is so eager to get things done quickly. Holden observes that he “felt peculiar when she did that”(94). Holden was referring to when Sunny “stood up and pulled her dress over her head”(94). Holden the acknowledges that “you’re supposed to feel pretty sexy when somebody gets up and pulls their dress over their head, but I didn’t”(95). Holden quickly rejects the intimacy of sex and instead asks Sunny if she feels “like talking for a while”(95). Sunny isn’t very jubilant with the fact that Holden does not want to have sex, but instead talk. There is something inside of Holden that always prohibits him from …show more content…

This is a self-destructive paradox that leaves Holden suffering under the weight of his thoughts and feelings. Holden’s paradoxical longing for and rejection of intimacy is something that indicates just how ill Holden is. Holden feels so alone that he seeks out intimate relationships in order to feel like someone is listening or caring for him. When Holden finds himself in situations that involves intimacy he recoils back into himself. Instead of talking about how he feels during these situations Holden decides that it is no use telling people how he feels because they will not understand. What Holden doesn’t understand is that there are people all around him who are willing to listen to him if he would open up to them. Because Holden thinks that no one cares about him he carries his emotions with him and this eventually takes a toll on his mental health. People do go through stages in their life when they long for intimacy more than they would at a different age. Holden’s case, however, is very exaggerated to the point where it borders abnormality. Holden’s constant shift of feelings towards intimacy leads him to become confused which eventually leads to his own

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