In his article entitled “Turn Your Critical and Controlling Inner Voice into A C.A.L.M. M.O.” Gregg Henriques, Ph.D. presents a solution to internal negative feedback loops caused by one’s response to stressful or off-putting stimuli. He begins by explaining that humans have two streams of consciousness: one that reacts and one that reflects on the actions made by the former. By falling into the trap of thinking that one is not allowed to be weak or sensitive, he elaborates that many people will justify negative responses such as avoidance or repression of emotions. However, he explains that when one is critical of their own emotions and responses to given situations, they aren’t really doing themselves any favors. He introduces the acronym of C.A.L.M. M.O. instead. …show more content…
He refers to his acronym as an “intervention” which can pull individuals out of the overly-critical voice playing in their heads. C.A.L.M. M.O. introduces a new inner voice: one that is curious, accepting, lovingly compassionate, and motivated to learn and grow rather than encourage defeat. Henriques demonstrates the practical use of the acronym by writing a fictional case study about a girl named Ashley. Ashley had chaos all around her; not only did she have a history of anxiety and depression, but she experienced many situations that would cause even a healthy individual stress. Instead of talking to somebody about her negative emotions, she internalized them, insisting that they were of no practical
Carol Tavris was born in 1944 and received her Ph.D. in Social Psychology from the University of Michigan. She has published mental health issues and taught courses in psychology. Her articles have been published in magazines like Science Digest, Harpers, Redbook, and the New York Times. She has also published Anger: the Misunderstood Emotion, and The Mismeasure of Woman. For the reason Tavris has a Ph.D. in Social Psychology her intelligence shows through her work. Through this article, one can tell she is very dedicated and interested in her work. Tavris writes to any audience, however, the impact from the article will only be possessed in the persons who have the traits of the people she is writing about. This article is a full attack on human nature and people may feel a little judged after reading it. This is exactly what Tavris wants; she wants people to take a look at their own lives. She expects the audience to change the way they act...
Thompkins H. Matteson was known for painting scenes with historical and religious themes. Depicting an event during Salem witch trials, this painting was exhibited by the artist in New York in 1848. "Mary Fisher, a young girl, was seized upon by Deputy Governor Bellingham in the absence of Governor Endicott, and shamefully stripped for the purpose of ascertaining whether she was a witch, with the Devil's mark upon her.” quoted from John Greenleaf Whittier's book Supernaturalism of New England in 1874. Witch hunts similar to Mary Fisher’s were far to common and the tragedy of Salem extended beyond the people who were executed. Paranoia and hysteria of colonists during this period claimed the innocent lives of
The first section explores the “flat-brain theory of emotions, flat-brain syndrome, and flat-brain tango” (Petersen, 2007, pp. 2-45). All three are interrelated (Petersen, 2007). The flat-brain theory of emotions “demonstrates what’s occurring inside of us when things are going well, and how that changes when they are not” (Petersen, 2007, p. 11). Petersen’s (2007) theory “explains how our emotions, thinking, and relating abilities work and how what goes on inside us comes out in the ways we communicate and act” (p. 8). The “flat-brain syndrome” describes what happens when an individual wears their emotions on their sleeve. This “makes it
A discrepancy between one’s internal and external state means that there is an imbalance of one’s emotional equilibrium. With or without dissonance, the individual is alienating themselves from the rest of the group because they are disconnected from their emotions. My internal state at the celebratory dinner did not match the positive facade I put up, because prior to the event, my car was towed and I anticipated an uncomfortable gathering with both of my parents under one roof. I used deep acting by telling myself that I was there for my brother’s engagement and that I should be happy for him just as my family was. I changed a personal part of myself to fit the context of the
The main idea or concept of Didion’s “The Los Angeles Notebook” is to portray how human behavior and thought is a result of mechanics. Didion describes the Santa Ana winds as the omnipotent force that pulls humans to their mechanical nature. Los Angeles residents feel the arrival of the “bad wind” and succumb to the paranoia. Didion pairs a story of indians committing suicide to escape the wind with descriptions of the ominous changes that occur in the atmosphere during a Santa Ana to establish a mood of foreboding. After painting a Santa Ana as a paranormal force, Didion concludes to explain the science behind its “supernatural influence” on LA residents. She states that in the case of a Santa Ana, science can prove folk wisdom. The Santa Ana appears as a hot dry wind and whenever one occurs, doctors report patients with frequent “headaches, nausea and allergies, about nervousness and depression” (Didion 3). The excessive amount of
We are only in charge of ourselves. If we allow our negative emotions to overwhelm us, our loved ones can never help us fully recover if we do not help ourselves. Works Cited stillnessspeaks.com, 2008. Web. 21 January 2014.
To demonstrate how our feelings are tied with our behavior and response, I will share a clinical case I was working on. Candice (pseudonym) is a single 28 year old African American woman, who has recently moved into her own apartment with her 9 year...
‘I can’t handle this.’ And guess what? We don’t handle it well. If I tell myself I won’t have a good time at the party I’m going to, I am likely to behave in ways that generate exactly that reality, eliciting from other people indifferent responses, proving my premise. (“A Course in Self-Esteem” 5)
Words then have the power to bring a range of negative psychological and even physiological effects. To avoid this distress we try to employ behaviours that give us short-term relief- this is known as experiential avoidance. Experiential avoidance involves trying to avoid suppress or escape, from unwanted “private events” including thoughts, memories and feelings (Flaxman et al., 2011). However, many experientially avoidant behaviours usually consist of the initial distress and may increase this distress in frequency or intensity blocking people from living and enjoying a meaningful life. Therefore disentangling people from their minds, is one of the main aims of ACT, it is achieved by helping the mind look at the present and distinguish when to engage in problem solving and when not to (Hayes et al.,
Throughout childhood and our adolescent years, we learn to control our emotions, eventually gaining an understanding of how and when it is appropriate to express or suppress those emotions. This technique is referred to as emotional regulation or effortful control and is considered a lifelong endeavor, with early childhood being a crucial time for development (Berger. 2014, p.210) According to Berger, by age 6 signs of emotional regulation are evident with most children being able to become upset or angry without emotional outburst or proud without being narcissistic (Gross,2014; Lewis,2013). Emotional control and delayed gratification are developed using motivation either intrinsic (the joy felt within after achieving something) or extrinsic (the gratification felt after receiving praise or acknowledgment from outside sources) (Berger. 2014, p.214). Unlike intrinsic motivation, because extrinsic motivation requires outside reinforcements to be achieved, once the extrinsic reward stops, so does the behavior; unless it becomes habitual due to intrinsic gratification (Berger,2014, p.214).
...d again delve into her own emotions, using my words to help her identify how she may be feeling, my client can put a name to what she is actually experiencing. While it may seem obvious to the listener, when under stress, people may not know what they are feeling, or how to deal with it. Self-confidence is built when a listener allows that person to find out for themselves how to proceed (Petersen, 2007).
TICE, D.M., BRATSLAVSKY, E., and BAUMEISTER, F., 2001. Emotional distress regulation takes precedence over impulse control: If you feel bad, do It!, Journal of personality and social psychology, 80, pp.53-67.
I decided early on that I would allow myself to experience these feelings fully, because in order to be a good therapist, I need to be able to understand how the client might be feeling. I am still just beginning this journey, but I have every intention of becoming more open to embracing the new awareness that I have found in this class. This paper describing my philosophy will incorporate all three of these systems of psychotherapy in what I believe to be a clear and cohesive manner.
People thrived to experience life, and to seek out emotions, whether they were good or bad. This emotion and imagination of th...
Control theorists or cyberneticists view self-regulation as a process of determining goals, and then using those goals as reference values for feedback systems, which act to bring existing states into line with the goals. (Carver and Scheier, 1981, p. 119). Self-regulation complements the coping mechanism as the individual adapts to the changes based on an existing change in the expected, standard or even, ideal situation.