SAFE HAVEN “One in three women may suffer from abuse and violence in her lifetime” (Nicole Kidman). Abuse has an effect on women that cannot be put into words. It makes women feel lost and ashamed. In their confusion they hide in their abuse without moving forward. In Nicholas Sparks’ novel Safe Haven the author demonstrates the importance of overcoming obstacles when being faced with abuse. Overcoming obstacles is tricky but there are 3 important steps involved, going through hardships, building new relationships, and defeating fears. The main character, Katie is faced with many hardships. She is physically abused by her husband so she tries to escape and fears being found. After moving Katie finds it difficult to trust others but ends up …show more content…
She defeats her fear of her husband, Kevin when she becomes strong enough to fight back against him. Katie goes through the steps of overcoming her obstacles over the course of the novel, showing women that are being abused there is hope and proof love heals all wounds.
Katie’s hardships make her struggle with feeling normal because the feeling is so foreign to her. Katie feels alienated in her community because she believes her trials make her unlike anyone else. Her trials include being abused, escaping, and the constant fear of being found. Abuse impacts Katie’s life in a negative way but has an important role in overcoming her obstacles. Katie’s husband, Kevin beats and threatens her so one would question how she could fall in love with him in the first place. Katie falls in love with Kevin because, “In the beginning he was so sweet to her… he was
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It may be tricky and tough but to move forward it is necessary. Katie must defeat her fears but can’t stop replaying her past in her head. The main focus of fear is from her husband, Kevin, but when she becomes strong enough she fights back and defeats him. Trusting others is difficult for Katie, especially in a new town where she doesn’t know many people. Katie ends up meeting little girl, Kristen, Her neighbor, Jo, and a store owner, Alex. Physical abuse, trying to escape and the fear of being found causes Katie to face many hardships throughout the novel. In Nicholas Sparks’ novel Safe Haven the author demonstrates the importance of overcoming obstacles when being faced with abuse. Safe Haven is not just a novel and it’s not just fiction. “One in three women may suffer from abuse and violence in her lifetime” (Nicole Kidman). Overcoming obstacles and the process to overcoming those obstacles are very real. One in three women face these obstacles, meaning one in three women need help overcoming them. The mental impact abuse has on a woman’s mental health is astronomical and cannot be defeated alone. These woman need relationships and someone to lean on, they’re hurt and need comfort. Nicholas Sparks brings awareness to this cause and shows readers everywhere obstacles can be faced, it just takes going through hardships, forming new
The job of a child welfare worker appears to be a demanding profession that promotes the child’s safety, but also strengthens the family organization around them in order to successfully raise the children. This child welfare workers work in the system known as the Child Protective Services whose initiative is to protect the overall welfare of the child. The short novel From the Eye of the Storm: the Experiences of a Child Welfare Worker by Cynthia Crosson-Tower demonstrates the skills necessary to deal with the practice of social work along with both its challenges and its happy moments. The novel consists of some of the cases involving Tower’s actual career in social work. In reading the book, I was able to experience some of the actual cases in which children dealt with physical and mental abuse from their families that caused them to end up within the system. Also, some of these children had issues in adapting to foster and adoptive families based on the issues they faced earlier in life. As we have learned earlier in the course, the violence that a child experiences early in life has an overall affect on the person they become as they grow into adulthood. When children deal with adverse childhood experiences, they are at a higher risk for abusing drugs and/or alcohol, increased likelihood of abusing their own child or spouse, higher rates of violent and nonviolent criminal behavior, along with several other issues throughout their lifespan.
Katie’s teacher, Mr. Dubey, puts a very high emphasis on the students at Katie’s school about how important school is. Because Katie starts to feel bad for using David to get into Harvard, his attitude toward the topic changes and he tells that she should be self-serving and not really care what people say and to not "ruin the rest of your life just because you feel a little guilty right now"(74). All of these conflicting messages on what Katie should be like, how she should treat others an...
What those many women went through is a big deal all throughout the world. “As a result of fear of violence, participants reported altering their participation patterns in solitary activities by: (a) reducing night participation, (b) participating with other people, and (c) modifying where they participated. These three modifications in participation resulted in a lower level of enjoyment during recreation and leisure activities. Actions which may be taken to address the problem of fear of violence include assessing and improving safety features of facilities, access to safe transportation, and recognizing fear as a constraint in future research.” (http://www.cabdirect.org/abstracts/19951810804.html ) Later with more and more visits to her therapist and more practicing playing the piano, she made more progress. She ended up becoming friends with Caroline again and even though they set it up, they were all friends again. And everything was back to normal, kind of.
The movie Safe Haven is about a woman named Erin who is runs away from her abusive husband. He is a police officer with an anger problem. Throughout the movie Erin has flashbacks where we learn of her husband’s abuse—how he would yell, hit, and even choke her. One night after she had enough, she fled to her neighbor’s house. Her neighbor helped her to cut and dye her hair, change her clothes, and flee to the bus station. Erin bought a bus ticket and ended up in North Carolina. There she changed her name to Katie and started a new life for herself.
54% of women victims of serious sexual assault were assaulted by their partner or ex-partner (Stern 2010). 19% of women have experienced stalking since the age of 16 (Smith (Ed.), Coleman, Eder and Hall January 2011). These statistics help give a picture of the problem but do little to shed light on the solution. There are many programs and shelters offered to victims of domestic violence, Hill Country Cares is one of them. Hill Country Cares is a government funded women’s shelter better known s HCC. This is a place where victims of domestic violence are referred to from many sources. (i.e. local authorities after reporting a domestic violence incident). HCC is a safe place where victims receive many different types of assistance while their situation, as well as the painfully intimate details of their abuse, are kept entirely confidential.
...eneficial due to the suggestions Simmons gives to teachers, parents and the victims themselves on effective ways to avoid and prevent this abusive behavior from continuing. I would highly recommend this book to girls of all ages, parents, teachers, school faculty or anyone who has contact with girls. Simmons believes we need to teach girls that it is okay to expose their most uncomfortable feelings. There are many dangerous warning signs of girls giving themselves over to someone else’s terms and denying their own feelings which worry Simmons the most. This behavior is dangerous and could lead to victims staying in violent relationships in the future if we do not teach girls early to know how to resist the signs of abuse.
The publication of The Round House by Louise Erdrich serves as a literary feat and national victory for sexual assault survivors and activists through the author 's realistic depiction and exploration into the brutal effects that domestic violence has on a victim, family, and community. In The Round House, Geraldine 's traumatic assault during the summer of 1988 is not to be treated as an isolated incident, but a common occurrence that has affected millions of Americans and evolved into a national domestic violence crisis. The lasting emotional, mental, and relational effect of sexual assault and trauma are critical matters that are rarely explicated in modern literature, much
In the book, Outgrowing the Pain: A Book For and About Adults Abused as Children, Dr. Eliana Gil discusses the causes and effects of traumatic experiences adults abused as children have undergone during their childhood. Throughout the book, Dr. Gil introduces various types of abuse within the family such as emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. Furthermore, Dr. Gil explains how to guide these once mistreated adults to understand and cope with each situation.
... education. Katie firmly believes that schooling is her children’s only escape from poverty. She is not embarrassed that Francie’s knowledge surpasses her own, instead she pushes her daughter to work harder. Kaite’s constant pushing results in Francie’s acceptance into a college university. Katie Nolan is the heart and soul of the Nolan family and without her Francie would not grow up to be a hard working, intelligent young woman.
t there especially alone” (Staying Safe in a Women’s Shelter pg. 3). “The longer you stay at the shelter the harder it will be to leave, do not become too dependent on the shelter” (Staying Safe in a Women’s pg. 2). Works Cited “Domestic Violence Facts” NCADV. (2005-2011) 13 September 2011.http://www.NationalCoalitionAgainstDomesticViolence.org Jackson, Caron “Domestic Violence and Abuse” Food/cooking/nutrion/community 3 December, 2009, 26 October 2011. http://www.thefreelibrary.com Renee, “Staying Safe in a Women’s Shelter” 11 July 2006, 5 October 2011.
“Often it isn’t the initiating trauma that creates seemingly insurmountable pain, but the lack of support after.” (Harrell) There is a lot of trauma a victim of sexual assault goes through. This trauma can last years if not dealt with properly, in fact, ninety-four percent of women who are raped experience post-traumatic stress disorder and seventy percent of victims experience moderate to severe distress. Melinda Sordino is also a victim of sexual assault, she’s seen going through the life of a grade nine girl trying to fit into a new environment, make new friends, and find herself, all while coping with her past. Melinda’s distant relationship with her parents leads to her lack of confidence to ask for support and becomes one of the major
Kevin is an actor that becomes famous from his role as “the manny” on the major TV show called, The Manny. After quitting this role, he struggles to find a new job that he enjoys and feels comfortable with. Kevin struggles with making relationships work and last. Kate is very close with her brother Kevin, but she does not visit with her brother Randall because they live so far away. Randall struggles with raising his children and being African American. However, the most insecure character in the show is Kate. Kate faces many challenges in the show, but they all relate her obesity and insecurity with who she is as a person.
Without women’s shelters, millions of abused women would not have a “way out” of the danger they face each and every day. Based on the statistics, survival stories that are typical of victims helped at a shelter, and the beneficial resources provided at shelters, it is obvious that women’s shelters are very effective and necessary. It is crucial that these shelters receive adequate funding in order to give victims of domestic violence a hope for a better future.
Nicholas Sparks’ Safe Haven is a very suspenseful novel written from an anti-feminist perspective, in a way that portrays the belief that a woman cannot survive without a man; Sparks uses the main character of the novel, Katie, to be the female of interest in this area. Initially, Katie’s husband, Kevin, is an alcoholic, abusive policeman that she wishes to flee from. Once she finally gets up the courage to leave him, she runs away to a small town, Southport, on the opposite side of the country; since Kevin is employed as a law enforcement official, he has access to exclusive equipment and information and he is able to stalk and find her. Once Kevin finds her, he realizes that she has already fallen in love with another man, Alex, which infuriates
Violence is everywhere. Whether it is police brutality, war, or gory and bloody entertainment, violence is exceedingly common. People attempt to avoid the negativity, yet members of the community observe violent situations fairly often. Even though averting violence can be fairly uncomplicated, it can fester where people live. A home should be a comfortable sanctuary for those who live within its walls. Unfortunately, victims of domestic violence do not have this luxury. They live in fear and wonder what painful ordeal they will experience. Victims of domestic assault suffer physically and emotionally; the pain can leave bruises and cause mental damage. Domestic violence and abuse are insidious plagues that can destroy families and ruin lives.