The DNA of Relationships by Gary Smalley

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The book, The DNA of Relationships, by Dr. Gary Smalley was a great, interesting book to read. Moreover than to improve my marriage relationship, I learned of what the actions to endanger all my relationships and taking the responsibility to have safe, full of heart steps to face the dangers. Overall, The DNA of Relationships was a powerful book to read to learn face the dangers of all the relationships and taking the steps to make sure that the relationships are strong and healthy in the eyes of God. In The DNA of Relationships, there were two things that made me aware of what I had not thought of doing. First, I was aware that I shouldn’t give others the power to control my feelings. The statement stood out to me about how I can focus on the person and take the right steps of personal responsibility to refuse attention of what the person has done. The “not giving anyone the power to control my feelings” statement interacted me that I should give care to those who the person is, rather than what the person had done, that would build up our relationships. From here, I see the concept fitting me into my understanding of my faith and the Gospel in daily living. When I will be open to people that would have problems, I will help the person, but not the problem. Second, I was aware that I couldn’t force the other person to change. The statement stood out to me about how I cannot change people or even their personalities because they are not me Eckerley 2 and I cannot be them. The statement also interacted me that I should not change the people around me for personality, but for faith. From here, for fitting into my understanding my faith, I cannot change people and their personalities, but I can change their faith by shar... ... middle of paper ... ...ortant for me because I wonder what mind the author has to show the steps to hurt relationships that would be a sort of dance in fear. Second, I would ask Dr. Smalley how did he come up with a policy that would mean no losers in teamwork? The second question is important to me because I never had the thought of having a policy that would keep the relationships together when it requires teamwork. As shown above, The DNA of Relationships was a powerful book to read for the class. I believe of that the actions to endanger all my relationships and taking the responsibility to have safe, full of heart steps to face the dangers with the help of God. From the book, I now have the full picture of what it takes to keep the relationships strong and safe because not all people are the same around me and I must take the right steps to protect all my relationships from harm.

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