Divorce Where Children Are Involved

Divorce has become a major part of our society and affects many people every year. In some instances of divorce, families have been torn apart leaving children stuck in the middle of conflict. This is where children start lashing out at their parents and everyone around them and it is because they are hurt and out of their comfort zone. One cannot forget about the children that divorce affects in a negative way. However, this is not always the case. There are children of divorce that get through it relatively calmly. However, one must keep in mind that divorce is not always the answer. If there is a marriage that has only minor and easily remedied issues then they should try to reach a compromise. Married couples facing irreconcilable marital problems should not stay together for the sake of the children because they need to take their own welfare into consideration, divorcing may let them function better as a family, and staying together could put the children more at risk for psychological problems.

Couples facing the issue of whether to get divorced have many things to take under consideration. However, they need not forget about themselves when making such a life-altering decision. Couples need to consider their own welfare when contemplating divorce. They do not realize that how they feel and act affects how their children are going to feel and act. It also affects how the children may perceive things in life. “My own belief is that the effects on children should be one of the considerations in making such a decision, but it should not the major one. The major determinants should be whether or not the parents feel there is enough pain in their relationship to warrant its being broken” (Gardner, 38). That does...

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...leave the children less at risk for major psychological problems. In the instances of high-conflict marriages, the advantages of divorcing for the good of the family outweigh the advantages of staying together.

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