Crossing Social Circles: The Popular Group Versus Everyone Else

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High school is a combat zone. Perhaps incognito, high school is vile in all ways, shapes, and forms. High school is destruction of humanity. From blondes to redheads, nerds to football players, and albinos to bronzed beauties, there is no fair play. The people we hang out with show who we “truly are”. And automatically we are put into cliques. These cliques define us, and we are only to hang out with them. Right? Every school has their own cliques of people; the nerds, the jocks, the preps, the fresas, the freaks, the Goths and etc. We usually follow the high school trend, and keep into our own group. Why do we do this? Is it because we are scared to hang out with people who are below our social standing? And afraid they will corrupt our reputation? Who really knows? We just follow what we have learned to do, and created these groups of people. I suppose you could say there will always be those girls, who think they are better than everyone else, just because the have a lot of money. They My freshman year I took part in the production of a musical and fell in love with the cast. It was amazing how they made me feel so welcomed. I felt like I belonged. The seniors took me under their wing and guided me through the year. And then people started telling me, “Oh you hang out with the drama people,” “ Oh your in drama.” And I didn’t understand why it was such a bad thing. For the musical we needed actors of all shapes and sizes, therefore bringing in football players, the drill team, and other forms of people were necessary. We quickly bonded and became a big family. We all shared a passion for this musical we were producing and we all cared about each other. At that point a lot changed. We started tearing pieces away from the “High school status quo”. We proved that anyone could hang out together. I guess you can say there will always be those “popular girls.” The ones that think they are better than you, and can make you do whatever they want. Those girls really don’t see the cliques in high school because they are to busy with their own people.

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