As termed from an encyclopedia article on parenting, helicopter parenting is an expression used in the media to express contempt or disapproval of parents. Helicopter parents simply watch over, or hover over their children and lead them from a better view to give advice. Helicopter parenting is not what it is depicted as; it is a style of parenting that creates a bond between parent and child that in most cases is beneficial in economic, social, and academic aspects of the child’s life.
In this day and age, the media labels overbearing parents as helicopter parents, and the label itself has taken on a negative light due to the guilt by association. The ‘popular’ definition of helicopter parenting come from the ‘extreme’ cases (Jayson 5). The extreme cases in the news are just that, extreme cases; they do not depict helicopter parenting in general, and have been given the name Blackhawks (“Liftoff for ‘Helicopter’ Parents”). The idea of helicoptering has become a misguided ‘negative portrait’ by media using the term and ‘over parenting synonymously’, but the two terms should be used so. They are very different; over parenting is when a parent does not let the child think for themselves (Aucoin). Over parenting and helicopter parenting are not synonyms, but they are not quite antonyms. Helicoptering can become oppressive parents quite easily. Another side of over parenting is the side that ‘expects… immediate compliance’ to orders without giving reasoning. This style can cause below average ‘self-esteem… self-reliance and… social skills’ (McDevitt and Ormrod). The regular helicopter parenting is more common than what would be assumed as a study shows ‘60 to 70 percent’ of college parents have ‘some helicoptering behavior...
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Julie Lythcott-Haims’ article from Slate.com, “Kids of Helicopter Parents Are Sputtering Out,” is a recent article published on July 5 2015. Lythcott-Haims discusses the issues of mental health involving college students. Specifically, she is discussing the possible correlation of strict parental guidance—Helicopter or hovering parents--possibly affecting student’s life skills once they are on their own.
Children are unable to make decisions pertaining their future because their parents are hovering a lot and interfering in their lives. Such interference is what has led to the emergence of “Helicopter Parents” in our society. These parents go to their children schools and argue with teachers and coaches about their education or the difficulties their children face. In the article “The Hazards of Helicopter Parenting”, M. Sue Bergin explains how Andra Warner as a parent started hover after she got her second child. She started this in a slow fashion by doing what she thought was necessary for her daughter but realized sooner than later that she was doing things she had never done for her son. Andra Warner f...
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This paper will explore the strict parenting whether it has positive effects or negative effects on children. Before I begin my discussion, I want to ask you a question. How do you define an authoritarian parent? In response to this question, you can think about someone who has a complete control over his or her children. According to Kendra Cherry, the author of “What Is Authoritarian Parenting?”, she explains that, “Authoritarian Parenting is a style characterized by high demands and low responsiveness.” In this sentence, authoritarian parenting, also known as helicopter parenting, is parents who force their children to follow their needs without any explanations, so their children must be under their regulations even though children do not
In the article “Helicopter Parents Now Hover at the Office,” The Wall Street Journal columnist Sue Shellenbarger reveals that some parents have begun to involve themselves into their adult children’s job search. Shellenbarger explains that many parent have a hard time watching their child struggle since they have taken part in their daily lives for so long. She then describes that some children do not appreciate the hovering of their parents because the hovering prevents them from developing self independence.
Throughout the history of mankind, one thing has separated us humans from animals, which is parenting. In today’s world, you will not find any other animal that will take care of it’s offspring for 18 plus years, well except for bonobo monkeys. Now it is normal for parents to keep their kids from childbirth till the end of their education. However this brings up the question on where to draw the line, and what is the right way to raise a kid. There is one type of parenting that goes beyond the call of duty and it is called helicopter parenting. A brief description of helicopter parenting is basically a parent who is over protective and pays extreme close attention to their child’s life. Although helicopter parenting has some positive results, the repercussions of this parenting style can be harmful to the welfare of child’s development.
One of the main things that parents want for their children is confidence. On one side of this controversy, there are the Helicopter Parents who believe that confidence comes when their child is protected from failure. On the other side are the Free Rangers or parents with a more relaxed approach (Rutherford 407). Free Rangers believe that the best way to foster confidence is through learning how to deal with failure. There is no doubt that most parents want their kids to be safe. It is apparent that the earth isn’t always a safe place to be. However, helicopter parents feel that they need to protect their children more than Free Rangers do. Even if that means doing whatever it takes to makes sure that nothing bad will happen to their kids. It's good to be involved in a child’s life, but where do you draw the line between involved and micromanaging? In most situations, helicoptering means being involved, but not conveniently. However, there are certain cases where these actions may be justified. For instance, a child could be attending a school that is a bad environment with bad influences (Howard). If this were the case hovering would probably be the smartest thing to because a child is being saved from actual potential dangers. To helicopter as a parent can be extremely disruptive but it is done out of
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
Growing up, two group of people, parents, and grandparents, took the time and the energy to raise me. Both of them had different approaches when raising me. These approaches were different parenting styles. According to Baumrind, parenting style was the “[capturing] normal variations in parents’ attempts to control and socialize their children” (Darling, 1999). To put it simply, parenting style goal was to lecture, influence, and discipline a child. In general, there are four parenting styles with their own specific benefits and disadvantages. Furthermore, parenting style, granted the dynamic of the family was understood, can be identified in families.
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Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you are considered “cool” now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a different parenting style? “Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your child’s outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up, or runs from or fails in handling life.” (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view. Parenting styles are defined as the “manner in which parents express their beliefs on how to be a good or bad parent.” (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and strengths. All parents incorporate love and limit in their style of parenting. There are four different types of parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, democratic, and uninvolved parents.
Most parents take an interest in their child’s life from birth until they become an adult by picking and choosing what is best for them as much as they possibly can. Parents want to help their children to be as perfect as they can make them. Typically hovering parents spend a lot of money, time, and effort filling schedules things like with dance classes, baseball, and tutoring in order to have a ‘perfect’ child. As well as coming to their aid when they are in need, or their defense when they are in trouble. Help in making important, life changing decisions, like where to go to college at, or which career to pursue. When does helping become hovering? The generation of “Helicopter Parents” is becoming more and more prevalent in families. A helicopter parent is a guardian who is hanging over the head of their college-age son or daughter. Helicopter parents typically do whatever necessary to lead their child to success. This controversy has many suggesting it is actually making a positive impact in the next generation, some think not. I question if the next generation of young people will be able to think for themselves? If so, will the decisions they must make in life be adult decisions? Hovering parents are hurting society more than helping it because the next generation is not learning how to be responsible for their actions and make their own choices.
Helicopter Parenting does not start when a student begins college. It often starts from birth, to infancy, toddler age well into college age students. The goal of the parent is to protect, teach, and to prevent any harm from coming to the child. They try to avoid any sort of mistreatment towards their child, they teach them life skills and generally try to make sure life is good for their kids. Unfortunately, this often leads to the parent being overbearing; causing stress, anxiety, and often low self-esteem in the student.
Parents/guardians are likely to influence long-range plans for their kids. One of her students by the name of Callie Roberts, was encouraged by her mother to drop out of high school and attend a parenting class, due to her being pregnant. The two brother’s in her classroom’s had a grandmother who took them out of school because she did not believe getting an education was important. The students were considered to be in stage 5 of Erikson’s Psychosocial Development “Identity vs Role Confusion” since they were not used to being in a structured classroom and following rules, they had to “adapt” to a new environment in their