Parenting style is one of the most important factors influencing children’s academic performance, since parents are the ‘first teachers’. In Hong Kong, A lot of parents take authoritarian parental methods, which emphasizes children being absolutely obedient to their rules. In Hong Kong, parents generally believed that authoritarian parenting is the best way to enhance children academic performance by having a ‘good starting point’. Therefore, this essay will discuss how authoritarian parenting affect children’s interest of learning and psychological problems. Afterwards, it will provide arguments that authoritarian parenting not a best way to develop children academic performance.
In the first place, Children might loss the interest of learning through authoritarian parenting. In order to improve the children’s school achievement, the parents enforced their children join a wide variety tutorial and extra-curricular. Then, the children will do not have enough time to rest, it will influence the effective of learning, the children do not have enough attention during the lesson. According to the most famous ‘Tiger Moms’, Amy Chua, stated that “Love is plus punishing high expectations, she do everything, it good for her daughter. So that, no matter weekends and vacations, the children must keep studying and practicing”(Annie, 1). So that the children should obey and follow the order,and she believed the most important thing to achieve success is practicing, then the children should spend time to studying, not playing. Under a huge pressure, children get a good result is want to fulfill their parent’s expectation only. But the children may not want to be elites, even some of children will against the will of learning. In ord...
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The article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” by Amy Chua demonstrates the two different mind sets of parenting: Chinese parenting and Western approach to parenting. In my view, Chinese parenting is very strict about school work and extracurricular activities such as pianos and violins. For example, if we compare the two different sets of parenting; Chua says, for instance that Western parents believe that they are strict by forcing their kids practice their instruments for 30 minutes a day at most to an hour. This is nothing compared to the Chinese parents that would say the first hour of practice is easy it’s the second or third hour that gets tough (Chua 2011). This shows how forcefully strict the Chinese parents are compared to Western parents. The Chinese parents would say anything that really has to be said to their kid’s straight forward, but the Westerns would go about telling their kids, so it won’t hurt their feelings or their self-esteem. A few of these examples come to show that Chinese parents have intelligent kids, but are they intelligent enough for society? In other words are these Chinese children capable to work in group projects compared to an American kid that lives the usually life as a kid; like going to sleepovers and participating in different school activities. This is what David Brooks actually discusses about in his article “Amy Chua Is a Wimp”, says that Amy Chua’s way of parenting which is Chinese parenting isn’t effective enough. Well sure their kids are very intelligent and get high grades, but can they participate in well-functioning groups? One thing that Chinese parenting lacks in is a skill set that is not taught formally, but is imparted through strenuous experiences. This is exactly what Chua...
To begin with, while Western parents ' primary concern is their children 's self-esteem, Chinese parents plainly assume their children are strong. These opposite mindsets lead to different behaviors. For instance, when a child 's grades are low, Western parents will challenge the educational system. In contrast, Chinese parents will make
To be more specific, authoritarian parents are close to their children because they usually get involved in their child’s every activity. According to Amy Chua, the author of “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”, she claims that, “Chinese parents spend approximately 10 times as long every day drilling academic activities with their children.” Chua’s point is that Chinese parents are likely to spend time with their kids to make sure that their kids are doing well and safe. For example, when kids have assignments from school, helicopter parents would help with their kids’ homework. Some strict parents may not teach their kids’ homework, but they would force or push their kids to do homework by keeping an eye on them. In this way, raising children by forcing and controlling them also makes children more successful in their academic skills because children would develop a sense of
In permissive parenting, the guardians are more of the child’s friends and not a disciplinary figure. Permissive parenting embraces avoiding confrontation and being lenient as the key to success. Imagine a trip to the grocery store. You are walking down the cereal isle and you approach a child screaming because he wants his favorite marshmallow filled cereal, rather than a healthier choice. Fulfilling the child’s want in order to appease the child, rather than being assertive and making a healthier choice is a perfect example. A second contrast of permissive parenting is expectations of education. We saw that in authoritarian parenting an A plus grade is expected. The dissimilarity between parenting techniques would be that a B minus would bring praise in permissive household. This is similar to how I was raised. As a child, my siblings and I were expected to achieve good grades but that did not translate into an A plus on every exam. Our academic achievements were to be considered excellent and praiseworthy even if we brought home a B on a test. In hindsight, if we were to earn a C in a class we could expect some sort of restriction and forced remedial training in that area. Permissive parenting is a style of parenting that yields lower expectations and lenient rules for children. This parenting technique embracing fun and friendship between guardian and the child is believed to foster a positive environment for the child to succeed in
Authoritarian parenting tends to have a negative relation with their children’s cognitive performance on developmental tests and academic self-conceptions. The authoritarian parents’ beliefs about children have been found to directly correlate with low cognitive performance in the children because of the pressure they place on the child (Camp et al., 1982; Miller, 1988; Steinberg, Lamborn, Darling, & Mounts, 1994). Where authoritative parenting has been linked to different cognitive outcomes. The positive parental emotional support that is associated with the authoritative parenting style has been found to positively impact the overall cognitive functioning of children (Bretherton, 1985; Estrada, Arsenio, Hess, & Holloway, 1987; Mattanah, 2005).Thus leading the child to become more capable in abilities that are linked to cognitive achievements. Furthermore, positive parent-child relationships are linked to more responsiveness, which correlated with appropriate tutoring and scaffolding techniques, leading to better cognitive outcomes, when compared to children of authoritarian parents (Pratt et al.,
In the contemporary world, parenting is a difficult job. Different parenting styles will result in different outcomes. Amy Chua, an author who published a controversial article about parenting her children in an “authoritarian” way. Authoritarian parenting is a way to restrict your children away from participating in any activities besides academic-related. She believes academics are more important than everything else so she does not let her children choose their own extracurricular activities and get any grade less than A. I personally disagree with Amy Chua’s assertion that an ‘authoritarian’ parenting style is superior to other parenting styles. The ‘authoritarian’ parenting style limits children’s potential and development
First, authoritarian parents are the ones with the most rules, they establish them and the child is expected to follow them without exceptions. This cause the child to view things only the way the parents say and having very little room for involvement in problem-solving tasks.
Growing up, two group of people, parents, and grandparents, took the time and the energy to raise me. Both of them had different approaches when raising me. These approaches were different parenting styles. According to Baumrind, parenting style was the “[capturing] normal variations in parents’ attempts to control and socialize their children” (Darling, 1999). To put it simply, parenting style goal was to lecture, influence, and discipline a child. In general, there are four parenting styles with their own specific benefits and disadvantages. Furthermore, parenting style, granted the dynamic of the family was understood, can be identified in families.
When Amy Chua, a professor at Yale, wrote her personal memoir in 2011 called Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, controversy arose regarding the topic of an extreme parenting type called a “Tiger Mom” (Tiger Mom). When The Wall Street Journal posted an excerpt from Chua’s book on their website, it received over 7,000 comments both positive and negative including death threats (Extreme Parenting). In her book, Chua describes is forcing her 7-year old daughter to stay up all night without bathroom or drink breaks until she was able to play a certain piano piece (Extreme Parenting). Her daughter rebels, drops violin, and takes up tennis (Luscombe). Extreme parents exert great pressure on their child to meet expectations, and if they are not met, the child may be punished (Hatter). The MacMillan Dictionary defines a tiger mom as “a very strict mother who makes her children work particularly hard and restricts their free time so they continually achieve the highest grades,” (Tiger Mother).
Authoritarian parents hold their children to an exceedingly high level of status and success. In this style of parenting, children are expected to follow the strict rules established by the parents. Failure in following rules typically results in penalty. Authoritarian parents fail to elucidate the rationalization behind these rules. If questioned, the parent my simply reply with a “because I said so… that’s why!” The children are looked upon as miniature adults, and forced to grow up too quickly. The idea of a child being faultless isn’t realistic, no human is perfect. Holding ridiculously high expectations and possessing complete control are qualities an authoritarian pride themselves on. Children raised with an authoritarian-style are frequently good at submitting to authority but rarely have a strong sense of self-restraint. They typically do well in school and stay out of trouble. Dictatorial parents typically use spanking as a primary mean of punishment. Desperation for such control over their children often turns into an abusive relationship, either physically or emotionally. Having expectations and boundaries are a vigorous part of parenting until it becomes unfeasible. As a result of being too strict, children often become de...
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Authoritarian parents, show very little acceptance, have very high expectations of their children and are extremely controlling. These parents are strict, and use a prohibitive and punishment method. According to a research done by Kimberly Kopko from Cornell University, it “reveals that adolescents of authoritarian parents learn that following parental rules and adherence to strict discipline is valued over independent behavior. As a result, adolescents may become rebellious or dependent” (2). The adolescents who come to be rebellious may showcase hostile behaviors, while those who are passive are likely to stay relying on their parents (2).
Authoritarian parenting, is low on warmth/nurturance, harsh, and strict on discipline, and high on expectation. Parents instruct and order, they do not consider the children 's opinion as a group, and discourage verbal give-and-take. With this parenting style, children are more susceptible to antisocial peer pressure during adolescence, a time when peer influence is the greatest. Boys in this category have the highest level of violence. Teenagers become less self-reliant, persistent, socially poised, and have lower self-esteem.
Culturally speaking, Western parents believe that strict parenting damages the psyche of children and does not build character within then. Kaung Chang, who commented on the article states, “Being a tiger mom or dad does not always raise successful children. It has to do with the character of the child. To an outgoing and confident child, it may work; however, to an introvert child with little confidence, a tiger parent may destroy his life. My (grown-up) experience was the only model I had for raising children. Therefore, I turned out to be a very (strict) father.” In his comments, Chang elaborates that his older son was a victim of tiger parenting, causing his son to go into a deep depression, believing that his father did not love him. His younger son, however, grew up without problems, confident that his father loved him despite the stern parenting. Chang explains, “These are attitudes of two boys raised by the same parent. Therefore, I think the character of the child plays a major role in this issue.” Chang concludes that Tiger parenting is not the ideal parenting style for every child; although it may motivate some children, it may harm others.