Moving Beyond Fear Love in all its forms is the best gift. The giving of it enriches the lives of both the giver and the receiver. So why is it that there are so many people in this world with no love in their lives. Some people will say that they are too choosy or that they haven't found the right person yet. Others wail about their own inadequacies, thus being undeserving of love. Still others claim that love is an emotional trap that nature has fashioned in order to propagate the species and that intellectuals should raise above these sort of animal instincts. The reality is that these people are all trying to rationalize a basic fear that we all share. The fear of rejection. We fear that by showing our love we will risk a painful, ego damaging denial. It must therefor be better to wait until there is little to no chance of refusal before making an offer. This sort of thinking is sadly misleading in many ways. Love is not something that needs to be returned. It is not something that can be refused. If love exists then it exists. There is no reason to believe that we are only good people if those we love also love us back. The trouble is that most of us have been practicing holding our love back for so long that we believe there will only be one person out there that we can love and so that person had better love us or we will be forever unloved. If we were to change our thinking, we might see the lie that we have been chained to for so long. Look around you and see all of the people in your life worthy of love. You should be free to care for these people. Show your feelings through word and action. Perhaps through your courage they will find the strength within themselves to escape their own cage. But even if they don't you will feel free. You will have let go of one of life's most powerful fears and it will make you feel free.
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Hawthorne, Nathaniel. "Young Goodman Brown." Norton Anthology of American Literature. Vol1. Ed. Nina Baym, et al. New York: Norton, 1994. 1198-1207.
During Goodman Brown’s journey, he recognized Goody Cloyse, his catechism teacher, the preacher, and Deacon Gookin is going to the devil’s meeting. However, after seeing his church members at the devil’s meeting, Goodman says, “My Faith is gone! and There is no good on earth; and sin is but a name. Come devil! for to thee is this world given” (Hawthorne 27). “But, where is Faith?”, asked Goodman Brown (Hawthorne 29). As hope came into his heart, he trembled when he found the pink ribbon of his wife, Faith, in the forest. At that moment, Goodman Brown lost his faith in his family and church members. Goodman becomes unforgiving of others and believes only evil can be created from evil and there is nothing that anyone can do to change it. Here, Hawthorne demonstrates that a naive faith in our family, friends, and church member’s righteousness could lead to distrust. While, “Young Goodman Brown” lives a long life with Faith, he never loses his meanness toward humanity and the evil in the world, “for his dying hour was gloom” (Hawthorne
It all comes to him as a huge shock and he is shaken but he still holds on to his faith. He cries, “With heaven above and Faith below, I will yet stand firm against against the devil” (Hawthorne 84). After seeing so much hypocrisy, the foundation of Goodman Brown’s faith was shaken but still he kept holding on because of his wife, Faith. He knew as long as Faith is by his side, he will never become corrupted. When Goodman Brown sees Faith’s pink ribbon caught on a branch in the forest, he loses it and his faith weakens. He cries, “My Faith is gone!” (Hawthorne 85). By saying this, Goodman Brown also means that his faith in God is gone along with his wife since his wife symbolizes his own faith. He goes on by saying, “There is no good on earth; and sin is but a name. Come, devil; for to thee is this world given” (Hawthorne 85). That’s when he takes the devil’s staff and is immediately transported to the evil ceremony where he sees how corrupted everyone
Love is just a man-made construct created to justify our decadence. Human are hedonistic animals: we always seek pleasure. Truthfully, we are inherently selfish, caring for only our own well-being, and even if we say we love without costs, we love because it gives us the utmost pleasure: the pursuit of happiness.
...Brown, like all humans, sees that everyone can be corrupt and immoral, that it is possible for people to make mistakes. This is extremely disappointing to brown and ruins him. Brown felt that he made the right decision and did not follow the devil, but everyone else around him did. Even his own wife follows the devil. She is supposed to represent holiness and faith, and she is just as corrupt as everyone else. This portrays how even the church, which is supposed to be holy, can be corrupt. The story symbolizes that everyone in society is flawed and no one is perfect. However this idea drives Goodman brown to become insane. He dwells on this fact and loses his ability to see the good in people as well as the bad. Brown couldn't realize that even if people are evil at times, they can still be good people. This is what caused brown to change so drastically.
The use of dark imagery throughout the story gives you a sense of fear of the unknown that lies ahead of Goodman Brown on his journey. The beginning sentence of the story illustrates an image of a sunset and the approaching of night as Goodman Brown sets off on his mission. ?Young Goodman Brown came forth, at sunset, into the street of Salem village, but put his head back, after crossing the threshold.? (196) Here, the light of the sun represents the knowledge that Goodman Brown already has. The imagery of darkness setting in is the unknown knowledge Goodman Brown is out to discover. Goodman Brown must first travel through the darkness of the unknown before he reaches the light of enlightenment and truth that is why he is embarking on his journey throughout the night hours. ?My journey, as thou callest it, forth and back again, must needs be done ?twist now and sunrise.? (197)
he did not give love but took love. I believe this to be a mistake many people make in
Goodman Brown leaves his wife, Faith, and Salem village in the daytime to keep his appointment with the devil, and he ventures into the forest without his ?faith.? This is a moment of irrationality because he leaves his wife, home, and security to take a dangerous and unknown path. He doesn?t want Faith to find out the evil intention of his errand because he says, ?she?s a blessed angel on earth; and after this one...
The longing to be loved and to love another is so great. This love comes from the Father who desires such a deep and personal and intimate relationship with each of His children. To be loved is to be the one who humbly accepts a gift freely. To love in return is not to repay but to accept love. To love as the Father has loved, is to trust His deep love and through being loved, we are free to give love. “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.” (John
Love is one of the most important things in life. People spend all their lives looking for love. Some people never find it. Some do find it, but aren’t always able to keep it. Some people pretend to have found love, just so they don’t feel bad about not having been able to find it.
This quote defines love as a blessing and should not be taken for granted yet some people do, and it eventually hurts their significant other. Love is a beautiful thing, people yet confuse it with infatuation, how is it that hard to not know the difference between love and
For those of us who never learned to love ourselves and for those of us who often feel inadequate, insecure, undeserving, or unworthy of love, we will constantly abandon and betray ourselves for the love of others to the point where we repeatedly find ourselves in situations and relationships where we feel used, unappreciated, valueless or worthless to those around us as well as to ourselves.
Mostly today, people are just settling for whatever comes his or her way because he or she just believes that true love does not exist or just tired of trying to find it. I have had my fair trade of this fake love settling, and honestly it has been some of my worst love experiences that has left me feeling with what love is not. Love is not something that makes you feel worthless or replaceable. It is not something that will cause the other person to cheat on the other individual. This is not something that you should dread or hate. It is not something that will make you sad or down. Stress should not be piling up at every turn one goes to. This should not make life more confusing or make you question if the other does care about you or not. The only tears that should run down one 's eyes are tears of joy, not sadness or despair. It will not make you hate life and force you to see the bad instead of the good. It will not bring doubt or false accusation to one 's self. Hatred to one 's self and the other partner should never occur. Love is not a horrendous monster that brings fear, hatred, self-doubt, and other negative feelings or
In a world obsessed with the possession of "things," it is ironic to see that all people seek one thing that is completely intangible, love. Love can't be held, bought, manipulated, traded, forgotten, or stolen. Love is pure, honest, true, fulfilling, and most of all valuable. Love is not limited either. An unknown author once wrote, "Trying to bring pleasure to someone, because of the pleasure you feel to see that person's pleasure, is perhaps the most beautiful demonstration of love." Isn’t amazing how something so powerful can be found in the simplest of things. In my life I have felt love in many aspects of my life. I love my family, my friends, my country, my life, and myself. These are all the things I hold dear to me in all the choices and plans I make. To lose them is to lose everything.