America Needs Gay Marriage
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As of date, Homosexual marriage has been legalized in 16 states with 33 states banning the form of marriage with constitutional amendments or laws. The gay marriage movement in the United States can can be traced back to June 28th, 1969 in New York city. Police raids on gay bars were common, but this day lesbian and gay patrons fought back that concluded in days of protests. These were called the stonewall protests. Between 1969 and 1774 the number of gay rights movement organizations dramatically increased for less than 50 to over a thousand.
Opponents to the idea of gay marriage say that gay marriage would weaken the institution of marriage and ruin the family values that a traditional family would have and try to stop the legalization of gay marriage at all cost.They use law to oppress people that just want the basic goals as any normal citizen of the United States. Although there is little to no evidence supporting their theory to be true, there are though many studies to disprove the theory.
“I have always supported a definition of marriage as being between one man and one woman. To me, this debate is about stable families and good environments for raising children and religious belief.” - Chuck Grassley, MA Senator
What the senator is trying to get across is that he believes that the reason gay marriage isn’t legalized is because it puts families in danger and that they would be crushed by gay marriage. That is not true it does no harm to traditional marriages, or children being brought up in homes with same sex parents.
Firstly, what is the institution of marriage? The definition by book is a marriage as a social and religious convention.
Simply that, nothing more than social and religious bonding between people. So having two same sex people marry would not do anything to the institution.
Also what are the core values of a traditional marriage? For many its Communication, understanding, tolerance, empathy and honesty. Does gay marriage have those same traits? How does gay marriage ruin simple family core values? There are studies that explain that they have the same as traditional marriage.
Gay marriage would not harm the institution of marriage says a study in Social Science Quarterly states “permitting same sex marriage or civil union have no adverse effect on marriage, divorce, abortion and/or the percent of children born out of wedlock rates ...” If the homosexual marriages have little to no effect on the divorce rate and the divorce rate is up to 50% in America then there is already a very clear problem with the institution of marriage. People are divorcing each other and breaking the “institution of marriage”. It would be hypocritical not to let people of same sex marry because of a opinion that they would ruin the institution when the very same people are also guilty of destroying the representation of marriage.
A study by The Executive Board of the American Anthropological Association supports the idea that gay marriage will not harm the institution of marriage. In fact a conclusion was found. When Massachusetts became the first state to legalize gay marriage in 2004 and had the lowest divorce rate in 2008; Its divorce rate in 2008 declined 21% since 2003. The seven states with the highest divorce rate had bans prohibiting gay marriage. Gay marriage can actually build the institution of marriage even stronger than before!
Marriage in the media has also done a toll on the instituition of mattiage. It’s no secret that mant people look up to the stars in the media as role models. Recently star Kim Kardashian was divorced from her then husband Kris Humphries. Thier marriage lasted 72 days before Kardashian filed for divorce. This is one more reason the rate of marriage among Americans ages 25 to 34 is the lowest in the U.S. Census Report’s recorded history. Younger Americans have doubts about their own hopes for marriage. Many people have watched their own parents go through divorce and lived the separated parent lifestyle. Instead of taking any chance with marriage and being hurt. They simply don’t marry as a defense mechanism. Among the total population ages 18 and above, the percentage of married people dropped from 57% to 52% from year 2000 to year 2009. This data shows that this is the lowest percentage since some of the first U.S census records.
People in the United States are proving that they simpley don’t believe in marriage compared to previous generations. If society already does not believe in the institution of marriage, how is homosexual marriage ruining it as a whole? Also with the legalization it will prove to younger generations that marriage is still valuable. People are fighting for their right to be joined with their love by marriage, and that it is not to be taken for granted.
People that oppose gay marriage also suggest that children raised by same sex parents are not fully equipped with the basic needs compared to a traditional family child. Ryan T. Anderson and William E. Simon Fellow of the Religion and a Free Society at The Heritage Foundation say, "In recent decades, marriage has been weakened by a revisionist view that is more about adults’ desires than children’s needs... Redefining marriage to include same-sex relationships is the culmination of this revisionism, and it would leave emotional intensity as the only thing that sets marriage apart from other bonds.” The foundation believes that if the parents are so focused on their own needs of “being gay” that they simply forget to give their children the basic necessities that a normal functional person would need. They say any person being raised in a same sex parenting house would be neglected and not giving the right type of nurture and love a child needs.
This statement is entirely false, there are studies that prove homosexual Co-parenting couples raise children in a stable environment and expose them to different experiences and ideas that can contribute the the furtherment of man. The Executive Board of the American Anthropological Association found in research that same sex co-parenting can help children when the research shown "no support whatsoever for the view that either civilization or viable social orders depend upon marriage as an exclusively heterosexual institution”.
Rather, anthropological research supports the conclusion that “A vast array of family types, including families built upon same-sex partnerships, can contribute to stable and humane societies”. Children being raised in that environment can thrive in different societies where as a child with a traditional family would feel uncomfortable. The children having different perspectives can share new bold and creative ideas with the world.
Another false statement is that gay marriage would halt the natural reproduction system. A quote from Peter S. Sprigg, MDiv, Senior Fellow for Policy Studies at the Family Research Council says "Marriage is a public institution because it brings together men and women for the reproduction of the human race, and keeps them together to raise the children produced by their union. Future generations are fundamental to the survival of society. The quality of their nurture is directly related to the quality of life within society. Bonding the man and woman whose sexual union produces a child to one another and to that child is the most efficient way of insuring that nurture. Opposite-sex relationships are the only type capable of producing children through natural intercourse, and the only ones assured of providing children with both a mother and a father. Affirming only opposite-sex relationships as marriage thus makes perfect sense. Social science has shown that children raised by their own biological mother and father, committed to one another in a lifelong marriage, are happier, healthier, and more prosperous than children in any other households. Does society need children? Do children need a mom and a dad? The answer to both questions is Yes. Legalization of same-sex marriage would amount to a declaration that the answer to both is No.This would be a foolish and tragic choice.” Mr. Sprigg is stating that Gay marriage should not be legal for the simply reason that they can not reproduce and benefit to future generations. That the they hold no worth compared to people who produce children who are raised by heterosexual parents.
What Mr.Sprigg didn't say is in the year 2000 Census, about 65,000 children lived with same sex parents of the U.S. 400,540 children are living without permanent families. there are 16 states that allow joint gay adoptions :Arkansas, California, Colorado, Connecticut, D.C., Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Maine, Massachusetts, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, Oregon, Vermont, and Washington. There are homosexual people helping to benefit the future by giving children without a family to call their own a home. Could you imagine how many children without homes would be adopted and taken in to an open loving home by married people who can not bare children of their home. They would in fact be helping society. Every child needs a stable environment that same-sex parents can provide for them. They would being doing the country a spectacular favor by bringing in the children that do not have family to call their own.
You may think this is not important or relevant to you if you're Heterosexual but it affects many of people everyday. There are many advantages of being a married couple being such as hospital visit during a trip to the hospital, tax and inheritance rights, family health coverage, and legal protection in the unfortunate event of an ending relationship. New York Times estimates that a same-sex couple denied marriage benefits will face an additional $41,196 to $467,562 in expenses over their lifetime compared to a married heterosexual couple because they do not have the same benefits as a traditional marriage. They are forced to pay extra money due to the fact that they are not married which is simply unjustified. That is a tragedy, and needs to be addressed and fixed today!
How would gay marriage help us? Try the economy. Yes, you heard right. Gay marriage helps local and national government. Revenue from gay marriage that comes from marriage licenses, higher income taxes and decreases in costs for state benefit programs all go to the government. Gay marriage is an economic benefit. What would be a loving and touching moment for them would be an economic gain to the United States and every single citizen supportive or not.
This is not the first time americans were faced with changing our definition of “ Normal “ . We can look back historically and see that America has changed its terms of traditional over and over again.
Interracial marriage in many U.S states was not legal until a 1967 Supreme Court decision . Coverture; where a woman's legal rights and economic identity were decided by her husband when married, was common in 19th century America. A May 2013 poll showing 53% of Americans supporting gay marriage, it only makes sense that the definition of “traditional marriage is changed again!
“Many americans feel that allowing gay men and lesbians to marry diminishes the values of their heterosexual marriages. I don't understand this. the lesbian couple down the street raising two kids or two men across the hall in your condominium how do those unions take anything away from sancit fidelity or joy you take in your heterosexual marriage? Isn't your marriage, at root based on the love and commitment you have for your spouse not what you think of your neighbors?” - Patrick pexton
This quote very well holds true if something has no effect on you why interfere with others freedom? Every american has the right to life, liberty and happiness. So why take their right away to marry? It is time for fellow Americans to rally together and take stand against the discrimination of love of two people when it has no negative effect on the people who oppose lives. It has been proven that it does not harm anyone so join the movement and push legalization through!
Stand hand and hand and help these people who have been discriminated for loving the “wrong gender”. Call local representatives and hold rallies, the states decide the status of a person's marriage. Which means it is up to you and your fellow neighbors and family and friends to give justice to those who do not have it.
Give peace to mind to those couples with expensive hospital bills to pay because their insurance does not cover each other. Give peace to mind to the children without homes that are desperately wanting love from a family. Most importantly give peace in mind to yourself by knowing you did good and helped better man and supported love.
Only the people can change this around and create a better tomorrow. Let us turn the pages in history to one without discrimination because gay marriage not not destroy us it creates opprutunities, experiences and perspectives that were not there before. A fight for the betterment of man is a fight for gay marriage.
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11.Brady E. Hamilton, PhD, Joyce A. Martin, MPH, and Stephanie J. Ventura, MA, "Births: Preliminary Data for 2008" National Vital Statistics Reports, Apr. 6, 2010
12:Peter S. Sprigg, MDiv, Senior Fellow for Policy Studies at the Family Research Council, wrote email Apr. 12, 2011 to ProCon.org
13:"LGBT Adoption Statistics." LGBT Adoption. N.p., n.d. Web. 04 Dec. 2013.
14:Barack Obama, JD, 44th President of the United States, stated during a May 9, 2012 interview for ABC News