A Mother-Daughter Relationship in The Woman Warrior

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A Mother-Daughter Relationship in The Woman Warrior “Whenever she had to warn us about life, my mother told stories that ran like this one, a story to grow up on. She tested our strengths to establish realities”(5). In the book “The Woman Warrior,” Maxine Kingston is most interested in finding out about Chinese culture and history and relating them to her emerging American sense of self. One of the main ways she does so is listening to her mother’s talk-stories about the family’s Chinese past and applying them to her life. Kingston’s mother takes many different approaches to reach out to her daughter and explain how important it is to remain abstinent. First, she tells the story of the “No Name Woman”, who is Maxine’s forgotten aunt, “’ Now that you have started to menstruate, what happened to her can happen to you. Don’t humiliate us. You wouldn’t like to be forgotten as if you had never been born”’ (5), said Maxine’s mother. Kingston’s aunt was murdered for being involved in this situation. The shame of what Kingston’s aunt brought to the family led them to forget about her. This particular talk-story is a cautionary tale to deter Kingston from having premarital sex and to instill in her fear of death and humiliation if she violates the lesson her mother explained to her. Kingston is able to get pregnant but with the lecture her mother advises her with keeps her obedient. Brave Orchid tells her this story to open her eyes to the ways of Chinese culture. The entire family is affected by one’s actions. She says, “‘Don’t humiliate us’” (5) because the whole village knew about the pregnant aunt and ravaged the family’s land and home because of it. Maxine tries asking her mother in-depth questions about this situation, but her m... ... middle of paper ... ...thoughts about them in this book. Kingston scolds her mother for eating pills that were lying around the house: “You shouldn’t take pills that aren’t prescribed for you. “’Don’t eat pills you find on the curb, you always told us.”’(100). It is now time for an ironic reversal of roles as Maxine advising her aging mother. At the end of “Shaman” mother and daughter gain a better understanding of each other. Brave Orchid accepted the fact that her daughter visited her only once a year because she needed her distance. Brave Orchid turned off the lights to let her daughter sleep and said, “‘You must go, Little Dog’”(108). This obviously touched Kingston emotionally. The more mature Kingston now realizes that her mother loves her, although she never really says it. “The world is somehow lighter. She has not called me that endearment for years-a name to fool the gods”(109).

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