Parenting styles play an huge role in the development of a child. In fact, research has shown that parenting styles can influence a child’s social, cognitive, and psychological growth. Which affects children both in the childhood years, and as an adult. So this brings up the question what is the best parenting styles. I will be talking about some different parenting styles and how I feel about them. In the book The Glass Castle the parents take a very laissez faire approach to parenting. Some people say that this is a good parenting style because it allows the children to find themselves and so they are not guided by their parents. This may work in some cases. But, in Jeannette Walls case she does not have resources to become what she wants to become. Her dad can not hold a job so they're constantly moving moving around. Also, this parenting style can be very dangerous Within the first page of of Jeannette talk about her childhood it already is a consequence of this Laissez Faire Parenting style “[Jeannette] was three years old… [She] was standing on a chair in front of the stove, wearing a pink dress…[she] was wearing the dress to cook hot dogs”(Walls 9). Already this shows a very Laissez Faire style she is cooking hot dogs in a dress. A few sentences later it talks about how her mom is in the other room singing not …show more content…
It is a mixture of very strict parenting and a laissez faire style. Authoritative parents are responsive, nurturing, and involved. But, authoritative parents don't let their kids get away with bad behavior. When kids make mistakes or misbehave, they attempt to reason with their children. Authoritative parents are also less likely to control their children through harsh or arbitrary punishments, shaming, or the withdrawal of love. Authoritative parents want to encourage independence in their kids. But they also want to foster self-discipline, maturity, and a respect for
The Glass Castle was overall very strange. Written by Jeannette Walls in her point of view, this book is her memoir that she wrote to share her story with the rest of the world. It won the 2005 Elle Readers’ Prize and the 2006 American Library Association Alex Award. The title comes from an unkempt promise from Jeannette’s father, but rather than seeing it as a letdown, Jeannette remembers it as a hope that things will get better, a trait she must have received from her mother. While The Glass Castle focuses mainly on her immediate family, she later wrote another book, Half Broke Horses, about her grandmother, Lily Casey Smith.
Parenting isn’t all that great. According to Marisa de los Santos, author of Love Walked In;, “No one is ever quite ready; everyone is always caught off guard. Parenthood chooses you. And you open your eyes, look at what you’ve got, say “Oh, my gosh,” and recognize that of all the balls there ever were, this is the one you should not drop. It’s not a question of choice.” (Bongiorno). In the memoir, of The Glass Castle, by Jeannette Walls, the parents tend to stray away from the ‘normal parenting rules’. According to the Walls, being a parent means toparenting is leave ing your kids to fend for themselves, stealing from them, and letting them have the unlimited freedomletting them do whatever they want. The parents,; Rex and Rose Mary, do treat their kids with somewhat a low sense of decency.
The first style is indulgent. According to Darling (1999) “indulgent parents are more responsive than demanding.” This style of parenting is also called permissive parenting which means parents “rarely discipline their children because they have relatively low expectations of maturity and self-control” (Parenting Styles: The Four Styles of Parenting, 2014). The next style is referred to as authoritarian parenting. “Authoritarian parents are highly demandind and directive, but not responsive like permissive parents” (Darling, 1999). This style expects children to follow the rules which are established by the parents (Parenting Styles: The Four Styles of Parenting, 2014). Authoritative parenting is not to be confused with authoritarian parenting because it parents are both demanding and responsive. In this style, “parents are responsive to their children and willing to
Every family is unique in dynamic and nature. Parenting styles within families vary depending on circumstance and principal. What defines parenting styles is the approach that parents take on raising their children and the psychological and social effects it has on their child’s development. These parenting techniques influence the child’s lifestyle and beliefs throughout their life and have lasting effects on the child’s adulthood. In the research article Child self-esteem and different parenting styles of mother’s: cross-sectional study discusses that “Parenting style refers to the practices adopted by parents during their children’s growth and socialization stages and how the children are controlled.” Developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind
Diana Baumrind, a developmental psychologist, was the first psychologist to identify parenting styles in 1967. The three parenting styles are authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. At one time, these three were the only parenting styles but later on, uninvolved parenting was added to the list of parenting styles. The four parenting styles are described on how much love, rules and the child’s behavior. Looking back to my childhood, I can see how all the parents showed the different parenting styles, including my parents.
The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls is a harrowing and heartbreaking yet an inspiring memoir of a young girl named Jeannette who was deprived of her childhood by her dysfunctional and unorthodox parents, Rex and Rose Mary Walls. Forced to grow up, Walls stumbled upon coping with of her impractical “free-spirited” mother and her intellectual but alcoholic father, which became her asylum from the real world, spinning her uncontrollably. Walls uses pathos, imagery, and narrative coherence to illustrate that sometimes one needs to go through the hardships of life in order to find the determination to become a better individual.
The authoritative style is known as the “ideal” parenting style and it seems to make more children come out with high ranks of self-reliance and self-esteem, who are socially accountable, liberated, and achievement-oriented according to Education .com. Authoritative parents set clear expectations and have high principles. They keep an eye on their children’s behavior, use discipline grounded on reasoning, and inspire their children to make choices and learn from their mistakes. They are also warm and nurturing parents, giving their children kindness, respect, and affection (Greenwood, 2014). These parents supply firm and constant guidance, united with love and affection (Coon & Mittterer...
The authoritarian parenting style is the stricter style. Parents who use this method have strict limits set and show little or no love. The most common reason for parents using this method is that they don't want their children being failures. So, parents as such will shame and blames, punish, and tease their child. As sick as this sounds studies show parents using this method are usually successful. When a child is punished or blamed he or she is said to learn what not to do, feel guilty, and avoid from making such mistakes again. Punishments include spankings, timeouts, and taking something of value from the child. Parents who use this method demand respect, allow no questioning or arguing, and want full compliance. One can tell that a parent is like this because they themselves are demanding and have some type of anger issues. The authoritarian parenting style is common is Asian countries such as India, China, Thailand and many more Eastern countries. This method is very rarely seen used in the States or Canada. This style is sometimes used without the parent even knowing it. Usually when a parent is irritated or upset they will tend to be more strict a...
The difference that authoritative parenting has over every other parenting style is that it has both responsiveness and structure. Parents that typically show this type of parenting act as teacher or counselors guiding their children on the right path. They are warm and approachable, but still, enforce structure and have high expectations for their children. These parents give their children opportunities to earn freedoms and are more trust based. These parents are typically involved in their children’s lives, but not overly involved because they know there is a difference between parent and child. Children that grow up in the authoritative parenting lifestyle are more successful in school, have a higher self-esteem, good social skills and overall researchers have found these kids to be happier and more productive than under any other parenting style. These families are supportive and loving. I feel that my family is a good example of authoritative parenting because they always pushed me to perform my best in my grades and soccer that opened up pathways for me to be successful and go on the peruse an academic and athletic career in college. My parents allowed me freedom by earning their trust. They have guided and molded me into the person I am today by being loving, nurturing and pushing me to be my
Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you are considered “cool” now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a different parenting style? “Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your child’s outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up, or runs from or fails in handling life.” (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view. Parenting styles are defined as the “manner in which parents express their beliefs on how to be a good or bad parent.” (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and strengths. All parents incorporate love and limit in their style of parenting. There are four different types of parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, democratic, and uninvolved parents.
Over the years studies have found patterns in parenting styles and their effects on children. "Parenting isn’t only a collection of skills, rules, and tricks of the trade (Lloyd, Carol. 2012)”, it defines who you become, reflects your culture and represents values important in a family. Parenting style has a long term impact on a child’s development, success and outlook on life. The three styles of parenting are permissive parenting/hands-off parenting , authoritarian parenting, authoritative parenting .Studies revealed that the authoritative parenting style results in the highest success rates for their children in school and in social aspects, thus creating a stable child (Lloyd, Carol.2012).
The Permissive parents do not demand much out of their children, but they are very responsive and supportive of their child. The Authoritarian parents are the exact opposite, being very demanding, but not very responsive. Lastly, the Authoritative, they are the style in between. These parents understand that there needs to be a balance between structure and support. When you start to put each of these parenting styles in specific scenarios, it quickly becomes clear how the children are affected emotionally/psychologically by their
Parenting styles focus on how a parent acts or reacts to their child. Your style as a parent includes expectations, beliefs and values that surround how you support and punish your children. Each individual style of parenting plays a significant role in early childhood development. Authoritative parenting style results in a more desirable developmental state. Authoritative and Permissive styles of parenting, leaves less to be desired when it comes to child development.
Darling and Steinberg (1993) have defined parenting styles as “a constellation of attitudes toward the child that are communicated to the child and that taken together, create an emotional climate in which the parent’s behaviors are expressed” (p. 488). In order to fully understand how these parenting practice influence behaviors and habits on academic performance or achievement you must understand the differences between the practices. In a more concise explanation, authoritarian practices are parents who are extremely strict, admire obedience, and discourage communication between the parent-child and express low levels of warmth. Authoritative practices are parents who have rules and boundaries, open communication between themselves and the child and have an equal balance of warmth for the child. Permissive practices are parents who are warm and loving, however have no rules and boundaries, in other words, these parent have no limits or expectations for their child. Uninvolved-neglecting practices are those parents who do not impose discipline or encouragement, these parents do not engage with their child. With these definitions in mind a parent can be any one or a mixture of
Children will always gain support from their parents, but it is a matter of knowing what kind of support their parents give them. Authoritative parenting style is usually parents who sit down with their children and help them solve a problem. In Guidance of Young Children by Marian Marion, state how authoritative parenting style is a high demandingness and high responsiveness. Parents give a positive approach to their children. It is an example of a full house moment where parents sit and talk to their children from wrong to right. Children feel secure and safe when their parents show positive signs of being good parents. For example, Marion explains how parents can show care ness by not hurting their children and showing respect. It helps to communicate well among parents and children.